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Can introversion be related to confidence?

I have experienced sometimes i feel very confident from inside and yet unable to speak confidently in front of others and sometimes i speaks very confidently but from inside i am uncertain.I tried to find reason of this strange experience and i discovered that there are 2 types of confidence:-

1.INNER:-from our deep inside,feeling confident
2.OUTER:- just looking confident
and one doesn't imply other

what is self confidence truly mean ? can an arrogant man be called as a self confident ?

Is a person is confident in conversation can be called extrovert..? and what can we said about confidence level of introvert and extrovert..?

and why it is seen that introvert person have more intellectual power than extrovert..?

can an introvert become extrovert just by improving his conversational confidence ?

what communication skills teaches us.? how to look confident or how to be confident ?

and any ideas or methods of increasing our confidence level in conversation and removing shyness in various unpleasant situation..?

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    Gail . 50+

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    Feb 20 2013: An arrogant man is the opposite of confident. He uses arrogance to cover his own self-perceived inadequacies.

    An introvert may or may not be self-confident.

    I was not only an introvert, but I was shy to the point of crippling. So, realizing how my shyness was interfering with my life, I took a position in 100% commission sales, where I would be forced to deal with the problem and grow through it. this did not make me an extrovert, though many assume that I am one. It just made me feel more comfortable in conversations with others.

    My transition from shy to not-so-shy came from my willingness to educate myself and use self-discipline in conversations. I don't get into conversations where I am not very familiar with the subject matter. An expert in a subject has no reason to shy away from sharing exciting information that will make the world a better place. That's part of the role that "passion" plays in a life.

    How to remove shyness? First - recognize that shyness is not introversion. Second - walk toward your fears.

    Shyness is the result of your believing yourself inadequate and inferior compared to others. So feel your fears, because it is fear that drives you.

    Set aside a time when you are alone and allow yourself the right to experience your fears fully. When you think you have, step back and observe your fear and how it affects you. Look around your mind for more fear that you are afraid to look at. When you find it, allow yourself to experience it. Something incredible will happen. You may need to do this 2ce in a row.

    Have paper & pen handy. Take notes about what happens next. See how often YOU judged YOURSELF as inadequate, and laugh as you see your own inherent perfection & the silliness of YOUR mistake.

    Then, if shyness attempts to throw you off in the future, relax and remember your perfection. You will no longer be owned by your fears.

    But, I encourage self-education in as many areas as you can think of. This puts foundation
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    Feb 19 2013: Arrogance should not be confused with self confidence - though it often is.

    A brash, confident exterior ironically is often a foil to conceal lack of confidence and sometimes narrow, over-focused thinking with little breadth or depth.

    An unconfident introverted exterior sometimes conceals depth and/or wide knowledge and free-ranging, broad philosophic thinking styles.

    Both are as valid as each other working as a balanced single entity, but depending on the pervading normality of the time, one characteristic usually dominates the other.

    In these times where success is measured in monetary/materialistic terms the brash, confident type is the characteristic to have in order to achieve. The quiet introvert rarely does well here, even though he/she possesses the clarity and depth of thought to come up with inspirational solutions to get us out of this dreadful mess that the first characteristic got us into in the first place!

    This conundrum of one characteristic covering up its opposite does not always hold true however, and certain rare individuals do exist where deep inspirational thinking is coupled with the confidence to get their ideas out there in a manner that unfortunately, has to overcome profound skepticism.