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Dyed All Hues

Thinker and Experimenter,


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Have you ever encountered a person who seeks your council, but does not even acknowledge your opinion?

This person asks for my advice, but they shoot down my opinion before they even hear me out. I feel they are extremely arrogant, but this individual is someone I look up to. I wish I could help, but I don't know how I can talk to them.

How have you dealt with these situations?


Closing Statement from Dyed All Hues

To know everything for certain without any doubt is impossible, but to continue to do, be, or change is the only way to figure this out.

I shall continue to do so and hope for the best.

Thank you all for participating.

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    Feb 16 2013: Derek, By just reading the issue I thought you might be talking about TED. LOL.

    The thing we have to listen for uis ... is the person venting or seeking guidance. As a friend you can sometimes say something outloud to your friend that really do not involve him/her and is only to vent to a friend. Example: Do you think my son is ugly? Probally better to wait a second before entering this conversation. He may continue and say a guy said his kid had big ears. IF he did would you love him any less?

    So the answer I provide is ... the issue is listening.

    Your friend is hurting at some level. Do not take his actions while hurting personally. They are not directed toward you. When hurting we all lash out. We do it often to those who are closest to us like our spouse.

    Time is a great healer. Be there but do not push. He may never want to approach the subject again and bringing it up may ruin a friendship. A good friend is also a good listener.

    I wish you well. Bob.

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