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Thaddea Thompson

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Why do some of us think we are not worthy?

Why should we always or almost always feel second or not enough?


Closing Statement from Thaddea Thompson

I honestly think that it IS the enviroment we grow up in. which is why I at the age of sixteen am determined to find out and work on myself, so that my future children will know what a person self vindicated looks like then possibly want it for themselves. I AM NOT PERFECT. and I like that.

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    Gail . 50+

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    Feb 16 2013: I grew up (and all that I know as well), being taught that I am unworthy. From childhood, we heard "Children are inferior to their elders". That was the central message that we heard in many different ways for at least 18 years. Then we reinforced that understanding by teaching it to our children.

    I have many memories from early childhood (even infancy). I had an understanding of how the world works that would have benefited my world, but no one believed that I had anything important to say. What do you think that does to a child, who is totally dependent on those who don't even recognize her essential existence?

    When I was 4.5, I started going to Sunday School. That was like the nail in the coffin. There, the hidden message was verbalized. "You are not perfect. You have sin in you. Your sin is so bad that someone had to suffer and die for you to save you from the hell that you are worthy of". No one told me what that sin was or how it got in me. I just knew that I was bad but I couldn't figure out why.

    Take years and years of that kind of indoctrination, and never go on a voyage of discovery of self (who is the essential me - what is the essential me) and you have a person owned by his/her insecurities without even knowing it.

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