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Thaddea Thompson

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Why do some of us think we are not worthy?

Why should we always or almost always feel second or not enough?


Closing Statement from Thaddea Thompson

I honestly think that it IS the enviroment we grow up in. which is why I at the age of sixteen am determined to find out and work on myself, so that my future children will know what a person self vindicated looks like then possibly want it for themselves. I AM NOT PERFECT. and I like that.

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  • Feb 16 2013: As a clinical psychologist I see too many people whose sense of worth has been lowered by shame. From my non-research, clinical perspective, shame is a "lowering/yielding/head down" mammal brain survival reaction to inescapable attack from the pack or society. Accepting one’s vulnerability is just acknowledging that “I am a mortal human and therefore vulnerable to loss, criticism from society, abandonment, death, and amazing feats of courage and joy.” It’s tremendously liberating to simply state: “So I’m not perfect. So What? I’m only human. But I’m still here and worthy of life.”
    There’s no shame in admitting our human vulnerability and imperfection. Quit the opposite. The awareness of our mammal brain lowering reaction awakens us to hold our human heads up high and say, “Yes, I’m human and imperfect. I give myself worthiness. What’s your point?” It’s the denial of humanness and the attempt to be perfect and invulnerable that causes us pain and shame. I’d like to speak up for letting go of trying to be perfect and invulnerable and to compassionate embracing our human imperfection. How liberating and courageous!

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