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How has a single experience changed your attitude forever?

I'm a strong believer that true attitude changes can only happen through experience. Some experiences are only a few seconds long, but hit you so hard you will never be the same again. These experiences can be near-death experiences, a brief conversation with a passing stranger, the loss or gain of a loved one, maybe you got fired or a customer rejected you, or even just reading a book. I would love to hear your experiences.


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    Feb 12 2013: He told me to prepare to die, so I did. He was certainly capable of doing that. This left me with a choice. My choice was, did I want to die terrified or did I want to die at peace. I chose peace. At that moment, I had a flash of awareness that was so HUGE and so profound that my life was forever changed. The man who was about to kill me suddenly turned around and walked away - leaving me unharmed. At that moment, I understood the answer to so many questions I had asked in life. My whole life had been spent living inside-out and upside-down. I was never the same again.
    • Feb 12 2013: Fascinating experience. I too have had similar insights. For my job I do a lot of travelling by plane, and whenever turbulence hits I tend to get pretty nervous. But over time I am conditioning myself out of this response and I do it by following this line of reasoning:
      What's the worst that can happen?
      I will die.
      So if I die, do I want to die terrified and unhappy? Or do I want to just accept it and go peacefully?
      This actually then makes me think that the worst that could happen is I die being terrified, or I even waste my time being terrified when I'm not really going to die at all.

      Grace if you wouldn't mind, could you please contact me as I would like to speak to you a bit more about this experience.
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      Feb 12 2013: Grace,

      Interesting. I have heard it said that fear comes with the expectation of death and peace with the certainty of it. I wonder if that is what you experienced.

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