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Telling others about your goals forces you to accomplish your goals.

Telling your support system like your family and friends about your personal goals will inspire someone to complete their goal. Having the support system set up is a motivating tool to succeed. For instance, a person wants to quit smoking so said person tells family and friends that quitting is a goal with a set date. The support system that was informed of the goal will most likely remind that person that quitting is a goal whenever they see that person smoking. Without telling anyone about the goal it would be very easy to just forget it and not feel any guilt for failing. With the support system in place that person will feel a greater satisfaction for completing it by a receiving appraise from them.

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    Feb 11 2013: An alternative view:

    I recently read that the act of accomplishing a goal causes positive, uplifting chemical reactions in the brain. Sort of like a runner's high, if you will. Ironically, telling others about goals before actually accomplishing them can cause the brain to experience similar, if smaller, amounts of this positive feedback. The result: it's possible you're less likely to do things you talk about simply because you've already gotten the positive feedback your brain was craving.

    I stopped talking about goals and ambitions, and it hasn't diminished my desire to accomplish them. In fact, if anything, I've accomplished more now that I keep them to myself.
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      Feb 11 2013: This was also the Derek Sivers argument that James links.

      I too prefer not to announce my goals. I think people often spend more time announcing and discussing plans than executing.

      One can avoid forgeting about plans by posting them visibly in a space one cannot miss them.

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