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Farokh Shahabi Nezhad

CEO & Co-Founder at Idearun, TEDxTehran


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Is there any way to prevent religious debates from turning into a big fight?

People discuss lots of things, politics, sports, anything
But when they discuss religious opinions, most of the time, they get all angry and try to win even with fight.
why is that? why that can't be a normal subject?
and more important, How can we prevent this?


Closing Statement from Farokh Shahabi Nezhad

Tnx everyone for their replies. I enjoyed learning from different aspect for this problem.

I can only conclude this : Don't argue with someone unless they are open minded and ready to be changed and challenged.

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  • Feb 17 2013: Is there any way to prevent religious debates from turning into a big fight? I believe, yes, IF, the following is accepted and followed: 1. Motive... Today the word argument is used and understood to mean that all parties have "winning" as the primary goal. However in its origin the word referred to all sides seeking the truths of the topic or at least some commonality of the various beliefs. 2. Respect... I've heard all my life said "Oh, I respect your beliefs, but..." Today, I honestly can say there are many beliefs that I have only disrespect for. However I know that I am obliged to respect the person that holds them as there is always a source and reason for them to have that belief no matter how foolish they might be or seem to be. Even if it is because the person is simply Bull Headed, something made them that way. They might stay that way after all good reasoning or they just might have a change of "Heart" 3. Emotions... a.Convictions are always being fine tuned in any serious thinker. b. Anger is the product of Fear. At first sign of anger by any party the cause of the fear should be acknowledged and identified "What is the fear based on and how can the Fear be eliminated" so the debate can progress. I sure there are more helpful guidelines. I think this topic is paramount to building a successful formation of a peace loving humanity in view of a very extended history of senseless slaughter, and degradation of life and our home the Earth because of misunderstanding and different understandings of our origin, and responsibilities to ourselves, each other, and as many in today's world shutter to think of our responsibility to our Creator! Thanks for initiating this topic!

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