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Farokh Shahabi Nezhad

CEO & Co-Founder at Idearun, TEDxTehran


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Is there any way to prevent religious debates from turning into a big fight?

People discuss lots of things, politics, sports, anything
But when they discuss religious opinions, most of the time, they get all angry and try to win even with fight.
why is that? why that can't be a normal subject?
and more important, How can we prevent this?


Closing Statement from Farokh Shahabi Nezhad

Tnx everyone for their replies. I enjoyed learning from different aspect for this problem.

I can only conclude this : Don't argue with someone unless they are open minded and ready to be changed and challenged.

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    Feb 9 2013: Because religion, unlike science, cannot be proved with material things. This is the point of believing in a religion, to take what it says for granted.

    What unifies us is our common observations of the material world. If we all can see something then we all can agree that it exists. But that is not the way it is with religion. Religion it is a very personal and spiritual experience, and unless the other person you are talking to already shares with you your beliefs, it will be very hard transforming your personal thoughts and feelings to them using non-physical ways.

    Since religion has a great value in the mankind history, preserving it has always been one of the main priorities for many groups of people. Especially those who feel threatened if their beliefs were lost and who have bases built on their beliefs and religion. So they try to embed in their children the defense and even aggression towards whoever might form a threat to their ideologies. So the children grow to believe that it is them, and only them, are the right ones and everyone else wants to mislead them and they are lost themselves.

    So if every group has that response in them since a very young age, there would be clashes between them. No one would give in what they know to be true.

    The sensitivity of the group to the other religions depends on its traditions and cultures. Some cultures dont even accept anyone who is different, even if they did not express their differences publicly. Those are the hardest to be talked to because they don't accept your presence in the first place nor the presence of your different beliefs.

    But there are still others who are loosely attached to their inherited defense and aggression mechanisms. They are convinced with their choice and dont feel a need to express aggression towards those who dont cross the line in their debates.

    So to prevent conflicts in religious talks, we need to find open minded people and we need to respect our boundaries and limits.

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