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Farokh Shahabi Nezhad

CEO & Co-Founder at Idearun, TEDxTehran


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Is there any way to prevent religious debates from turning into a big fight?

People discuss lots of things, politics, sports, anything
But when they discuss religious opinions, most of the time, they get all angry and try to win even with fight.
why is that? why that can't be a normal subject?
and more important, How can we prevent this?


Closing Statement from Farokh Shahabi Nezhad

Tnx everyone for their replies. I enjoyed learning from different aspect for this problem.

I can only conclude this : Don't argue with someone unless they are open minded and ready to be changed and challenged.

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    Gail . 50+

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    Feb 9 2013: The answer to that depends on the people involved.

    I had a conversation once with a woman who insisted that if America didn't comply with God's demands, then it would be wiped out - therefore her own life is in imminent danger. She referenced the flood and Sodom and Gomorrah as proof that her concerns were valid. Her fear was real. Her need to defend, reasonable from her point of view.

    She is part of a movement to ban certain behaviors (rights) in our society, thus her aim is to destroy freedom and equality for those who don't see things her (preacher's) way. This leaves those she is against feeling threatened - as threatened is she is feeling - especially if they are women, homosexuals, pagans, Wiccans, Muslim, etc. etc. etc.

    Put two threatened animals together, and you have a fight.

    How to prevent this? Society must first evolve and become self-aware. Those who are self-aware joyously explore variances in worldviews when they meet. There is an underlying QUESTION of "is there something to be learned here that could benefit my life?"

    So to condense it: Open mind with open mind = fun. Closed mind with closed mind = argument. One with an open mind who meets one with a closed mind will not engage. Engagement is futile.

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