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How do we save the family?

According to many, the family as we know it is changing. Divorce, separation, children out of wedlock, high workloads and decreased time together seem to be rendering the nuclear family as null and void. How can we prevent this? Do we need to prevent it? What problems are brought about by the disintegration of the family? Are there any benefits from it? Your opinions are welcome.
There's been a host of research done on the benefits of a two-parent, stable home to children. Increased financial, emotional, and even medical welfare seem to derive from the nuclear family. I believe it's the fundamental building block of society. Kids without strong role models and mentoring in the home seem to have more difficulties succeeding. If the homes the children are raised in fall apart, those children are going to have a much more difficult time. I'm certainly not saying any kid whose parents get divorced is doomed to failure. That's just not true. But I do know that divorce, or the problems in the marriage that caused it, cause emotional damage that lasts for years.
If the new generation is raised in a world where there are no more permanent relationships, how will that change our society?


Closing Statement from Scot Wilcox

Dang, the debate closed long before we even got really started! I wish we could open this back up again so I could reply to all your comments. I did want to talk to Grace Greene and Random Chance though. You both seem to have grown up in broken homes. By that I mean a home where the nuclear family didn't work. The balance was off. I obviously don't know the details, but it seems very clear to me that a nuclear family done wrong is much worse than no family at all. A nuclear family does not need to spell oppression for women, it doesn't need to be founded on lies. The possibilities for love, openness, education, and even training for careers and human relationships is endless with educated, qualified parents who are committed to doing it right. They have their priorities straight, with each other and their children elevated above their own welfare. I wish we could have more families like this. I feel like then at least 90 percent of our society's problems could be solved. Unfortunately, the kind of personal and spiritual growth necessary to get to that point is a very personal thing that can't be legislated and can't be forced. That's what I feel will save the family. Better parents.

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    Feb 6 2013: The issue is that we focus far too much on materialism.
    Just like any skill: marriage, parenthood and friendships take time, effort, energy and experience, all of which are consistently taken away and distributed into the favoring of tedious work inorder to acquire possessions that often serve no necessary purpose.
    Usually because advertising considers whatever you currently have to be 'inferior' to the near-identical item that just came out, which will also be quickly replaced until the end of time..

    At some point or another we need people to sit down and really think about their lives, such as:
    'Why am I sitting for 2 hours a day in a traffic jam, spending a full extra month in the office completing mind-numbing tasks in an environment that allows no creativity, taking time away from my sleep, my hobbies, my friends, being away from my wife and kids and stressing myself out, just so I can have an upgraded iphone that is almost identical to the one I already bough 3 months ago, only with a marginal difference that provides no observable improvement to my life..'

    When we start to realize that most of our work life is infact due to idiocy such as above, maybe then we'll have some free time to act like people and be with our loved ones and do what makes us happy and then maybe we wont have so many relationship and parental issues..Just a thought.

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