TED Conversations

Mathew Naismith

TEDCRED 10+

This conversation is closed. Start a new conversation
or join one »

Is polygamy wrong taking in consideration that we accept same sex marriages now?

G’day TED Freinds

I have seen so many couples break up because one or the other has fallen for another person but the married couple still love each other, I’m not talking about lust here either but love. I suppose jealousy plays a part here but should it?

0
Share:

Showing single comment thread. View the full conversation.

  • thumb
    Feb 10 2013: I think marriage is a failed institution. As a social contract, I don't see why polygamy would be wrong as long as all parties in that contract agree. But wait a minute, you mean polygamy by women too, right?
    • thumb
      Feb 10 2013: G’day Pabitra

      Yes this is including women as well in actual fact I discussed this with my wife taking on another partner as I would rather her take on a partner I know about than the one’s I don’t.

      There is a point here that we don’t own our partners & if we loved them like we should whatever makes them happy should also make us happy, polygamy is a good way to test how strong the love is within the relationship but I have a funny feeling most relationships would fail in this area but I could be wrong.

      Love
      Mathew
      • thumb
        Feb 11 2013: There is a problem though. I mean it's not as easy as it may seem on the surface. Wills, distribution of property etc. are not insurmountable issues in a 'future/hypothetical' polygamist society - problem is heterosexual polygamy and same sex marriages differ in one area - the off-springs.
        We are also under an impression that children have no say in the whole matter of taking on another partner or as many partners as one likes. I think what children think in this matter has never been explored with sufficient care as we hardly cared if they have a right as a child, at all. Love also has a responsible side of it, and it is not practically possible to know if a child will prefer to be born in a relationship of multiple partnership.
        We just have not enough data on the mental and intellectual development of children of single parents or multiple parents to come to any conclusion. If love is the only basis of spousal relationship, and I will argue it is not, it cannot exclude the products of love, ie, children.
        • thumb
          Feb 11 2013: G’day Pabitra

          There are huge dilemmas involved in such circumstances but of course polygamy has been practiced in other countries for centuries not without problems of course. I think modern day living would complicate a polygamist relationship somewhat.

          It has been pointed out by others that living in a monogamist relationship has it’s down sides as well as we can still have many partners & children by different partners through divorcing & remarrying. I think in this circumstance the kids are worse off than being born under a polygamist relationship I would presume.

          Love
          Mathew

Showing single comment thread. View the full conversation.