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What is happiness?

What is happiness - a feeling? and emotion? a state of mind? an illusion? a comping mechanism?

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    Feb 6 2013: I don't like thee word "happiness" for exactly the reason your question implies. (Same with the word "love"). It has no commonly understood meaning. What makes you emote happiness is not necessarily shared by me in my experience.

    Happiness, as I understand it, is not my ideal. It rests far below my ideal as compared to the "feeling" of satisfaction.

    I think that happiness is an emotion, but it is not a feeling. Emotions are body-oriented, whereas feelings are not. Emotions are rather short-lived whereas satisfaction is enduring. Emotions are reactive whereas feelings, a universal language, are proactive.

    I see all emotions as existing as a result of conflicts in the belief system - thus they rest on fear.

    Still, happiness can be a way of employing denial for one's own purposes, or it can be a tool that directs you to satisfaction. In this way, I see happiness as a coping mechanism. But, because happiness is ultimately fear-based, it is also an illusion - because there is nothing to fear.
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      Feb 7 2013: Would you kindly explain the fear basis of happiness?
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        Feb 7 2013: I will try, but I think what I have to say can only be understood within the context of my worldview - which is different than most.

        I believe that I am the creator of my own reality - literally. What I want comes to me through application of specific techniques and principles.

        When I take my coffee onto the front porch in the morning, where I greet the day, I look around and recognize all that I see as part of who and what I am. I mean this literally as well.

        The sense of power as my being is profound. When I have a thing or am faced with a situation that is wonderful, I appreciate my own power that brought it to me. How different this is from one who either thanks God or luck or serendipity. The one who credits someone other than self for that which happens in a life cAN
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        Feb 7 2013: i will try, but I think that what I have to say can only be understood within the context of my worldview - which is different than most.

        I believe that I am the creator of my own reality - literally. What I want comes to me through application of specific techniques and principles.

        When I take my coffee onto the front porch in the morning, where I greet the day, I look around and recognize all that I see as part of who and what I am. I mean this literally as well.

        The sense of power as the essence of my being is profound. When I have a thing, or am faced with a situation that is wonderful, I appreciate my own power that manifested it. I have done this long enough to have confidence in my ability to manifest what I intend because I have cleared out most of the inconsistencies in my belief-set. How different this is from one who thanks God or credits luck or serendipity - where self is helpless.

        The one who credits someone or some thing other than self for that which happens in a life can be happy in the moment, but the momentary happiness is rooted in a belief that self is not powerful, self is not wonderful, self is not perfect, self is not deserving of all things good and wonderful, self has limits, self has reason to fear lack or loss. Happiness is a reaction to these errors in the belief-set.

        That's why I experience profound satisfaction as I make my way through life - with all of its little ups and downs. But my ups and downs are not taken personally, as an indication of my worth. My "downs" are seen as an invitation - to correct a situation, which most generally comes from remembering who and what I am, which makes the situation either evaporate or come under my control.

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