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Uri Katz
  • Uri Katz
  • Philadelphia, PA
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How do we make peace between Israel and Palestine?

Lets take it for granted that both sides are to blame in this conflict, and neither is going to disappear off the face of the earth any time soon.
Answers like "make love not war" would without a doubt work, but I am hoping for a little more substance.
If, like me, you think peace is only achievable in a distant future, but we have to begin working on it now, that is something I would like to hear, especially what we should be doing now.
If you know of a faster track to peace, all the better.

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Closing Statement from Uri Katz

I would like to personally thank all the participants in this conversation.
I think we all recognized the immense difficulty this problem poses. At the same time, most people acknowledged that there is plenty that can be done, not all hope is lost.
Here are a few answers I collected. This is not a summary, only a list of the suggestions I think have the greatest potential to lead to peace. Each stands on it own, but together they have the most power. If we start implementing these ideas, sooner or later the reality in the region will change and a more direct path to peace will become apparent:

1. Instead of broadcasting yet another suicide bomber, give peace a chance by trumpeting every peaceful attempt by both sides.

2. Deflate the issue so that people see it not as cultural & religious issue, but as a localized dispute over resources and land. Then we can ask what a just division of these would be.

3. Recruit moderate religious leader.

4. Understand the other side as best as possible. How are they different? How we are they similar? Make sure your education is fact based and not propaganda.

5. Teach and practice forgiveness, which is key to all true conflict resolution
Also practice: Tolerance, Compassion, Acceptance, Appreciation

6. Remove all hate, and all us-them mentality, from school syllabuses.

7. Both side need to stop looking at themselves as victims. They are not victims of each other or of the larger world. They should take responsibility for their lives and actions.

8. The blame game does not help.

9. Historical arguments are usually used to advance one sided justification for violence and war, as such they are ineffective in the struggle toward peace.

10. Create joint projects such as competitive sporting events.

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  • Feb 8 2013: We have an opportunity to learn from this conflict. In fact if we don't learn from this we are destined to repeat it. I see this situation as being like a family household. The human mind is made of 3 parts; the parent, the adult and the child egostate. This is actually healthy unless someone is getting hurt. In that case it becomes 'sick'. The rule is 'don't hurt anyone'. It's a very simple rule that should apply to any religion or political background. Both sides see themselves as victims. It is sick to see yourself as a victim because it relives injury. It is masochistic and hurtful. It breaks the rule of 'don't hurt anyone' because victims hurt themselves by wearing their badge of hurt with childlike pride for their parent's approval. The suicide bomber is the ultimate representation of a self-destructive child. It's like when we were children and we wanted our parents ruling as judges in order to win our case. What we forget to teach is forgiveness and that is the key to all true conflict resolution. I would ri-iterate what Kate and Uri said below. I loved the FB page that Kate talks about. It represents the 'loving child' egostate. We need an Arab spring movement along these lines.
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      Feb 10 2013: "The human mind is made of 3 parts; the parent, the adult and the child ego-state. This is actually healthy unless someone is getting hurt. In that case it becomes 'sick'. The rule is 'don't hurt anyone'.

      It is sick to see yourself as a victim because it relives injury. It is masochistic and hurtful. It breaks the rule of 'don't hurt anyone' because victims hurt themselves by wearing their badge of hurt with childlike pride for their parent's approval.

      It's like when we were children and we wanted our parents ruling as judges in order to win our case."

      The only resolution is acting out of "the 'loving child' ego-state."

      Greg, you took the words right out of my head :-) THANK YOU!

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