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Love, and be loved.

On a Planet Moving at 70,000 miles per hour, in a vast omniverse of hundred millions of expanding galaxies, each suspended with mathematical precision from a most mysterious “nothingness”....the chances of two humans finding each other and happiness at the same time and place is probably somewhere in the order of one trillionth of a trillion, (just a wild guess on my part:). Yet, “love was there 100,000 years before there was language” (Dennis Dutton). And the “ biggest life prize ” is finding and marrying our love (Dr. Helen Fisher).

Humanity has experienced the fastest growth and change in every aspect of science, and technology within the past two centuries, since a fascinating piece of literature (pride and prejudice) was published which dealt with marriage in the society of the landed gentry....

The world has changed, but life remains the same. Let us now sit around this proverbial ‘camp fire’, as our ancestors did millions of years ago, (even before Jane dreamt up Darcy, or Berners-Lee typed “this is for everyone” ;-), and embark upon shaping a vision of a good marriage for our new society of mobile gentry. 

What are your ideas?

WELCOME ALL - please write here before, during and after........a happy V day.


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    Feb 28 2013: there are two kinds of love...eros and agape...eros has to do with man,nature,plants as physical things,biological things,with a rude idea of what God is,simplistic and believeable or not...when one experiences "agape" there is love like no other...because it radiates from the body as unconditional love....erotic love is not unconditional love and never can be as much as we'd like it to...because it is dependant on what a person thinks,feels,experiences...but "agape" love overwhelms each being and ties him to his soul,God or whatever....the agape love that radiates from the Source,is unconditional and therefore makes us feel secure,warm,loved,joyous,blissful...we all seek that love...many have experienced it...one only gets hurt from ego love...
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      Mar 1 2013: Greetings Fran,

      I am reading your comment and it is very helpful to know of the two kinds of love, eros and agape.

      One question; where you wrote "eros has to do with man,nature,plants as physical things,biological things"....is eros only in men and not in women?!

      There is so much to learn......so far agape sounds like the 'real' one....and just from reading your description I am thinking that agape contains eros in it, but eros is a much smaller subsidiary of agape and hence the one that runs out (in all senses of the word ;-) and lets us down.

      ( Learning this much from you is already preparing me to respond to Derek's question above " Why is there struggle in the realm of love?" What do you think? :-)

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