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• Vikas Jain
• Delhi
• India

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People confuse confidence with self-confidence. Confidence could be on anything like confidence that I can walk. confidence that I can see.

Most of presentation skill training talks about body language as otherwise it would show lack of confidence. But rarely training focuses on why a person lack confidence. Because if person is having confidence, how ever his/her body language be, it would display CONFIDENCE.

My observations and this is what I cover in training:
Confidence comes from ability to do something which is expected from us. For things which are not expected from us, and even when we don't know them, we never lose confidence.

Only things which we are expected to know, but when we does not have required skill, we start losing confidence. This problem start even at time we were in school and not able to solve basic mathematical exercise. This first step of our life, psychologically made us believe that "we can not solve these problems" and hence affected our confidence.

Even in corporate:
- Sometime people does not have required skill set and they try to cover it up. But internally people know the truth and that affect our self-confidence.
- Childhood fear of standing in front of class, make us fearful to face public when we grow up.