TED Conversations

This conversation is closed.

When accusing someone, how often do we take our time to understand their side of the story?

When accusing someone, rarely we take the time to listen to them. We are almost certain they're wrong and we're right. We try to make others agree with us. But everything changes when we are the ones being accused. We want others to listen to our explanations and yes, believe us. We do understand how important is to be fair and just, but still try to avoid practicing this ourselves. Why?


Showing single comment thread. View the full conversation.

  • Jan 31 2013: Sean Covey's "7 Habits of highly effective ______" has one chapter with the underlying message, 'Seek to understand before being understood' with the message in this chapter you can apply thoughts from "The Art of War" where you should know your enemy. I believe you have a better chance of getting your point across if you see what the standpoint of who you are accusing, then assessing the situation proceed to accuse or not accuse as you seem fit.
    • B B

      • 0
      Jan 31 2013: 7 habits of highly effective people". Yes i have read it, but there is more to the way you react than just reading.
      I do agree with what U've written though ..

Showing single comment thread. View the full conversation.