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How do you deal with passive aggressive individuals?

We all have different personality types.
Some of us are passive, some are assertive, some aggressive, some are passive aggressive.

And at any given time, we may display one or more of these personality traits based on the situation at hand.

I am interested in experiences you might have had or are having with individuals who specifically display a passive aggressive personality.

How do you deal with them at work?
How do you handle them within the family circle?

If you yourself are a passive aggressive person, could you shed light into why you choose to act this way? And also, what kind of people are you the most comfortable around?

Any and all comments are welcomed. I am hoping to learn more about this type of personality so I can better communicate with these individuals.

Thank you.


Closing Statement from W T

Thank you to all who participated in this most wonderful conversation on passive aggressive personalities.

Hopefully all who participated walked away knowing a little bit more about themselves and others.

We cannot change others, but we can certainly change ourselves.

It is in this light, that I started this conversation. My goal was to understand why passive aggressive individuals acted the way they do, so that I can better understand how to treat them and get along with them........your answers shed alot of light into my dilemna.....I am still reading and learning.

Thank you!!!

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  • Jan 30 2013: The book - coping with difficult people - has as many good ideas of dealing with people at work as I have seen.
    It's a shame people are like this, but they won't change.
    • W T 100+

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      Jan 30 2013: Thank you so much for the book title.

      I just looked it up....my library has a copy of the book, and I ordered it.

      And although some people won't change, I am hoping that I myself will change as a result of this conversation, and will be better able to interact with those that are different from me.

      That is my goal anyway. It has taken me a while to realize that I can do something about my predicament.
      Thank you for your wonderful contribution George.
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      Feb 12 2013: Just wanted you to know that I am half way through the book you recommended.
      As soon as it came in to the library (I had to order it from another branch), I could tell it was a practical, useful book............someone had underlined, circled, highlighted, and made arrows pointing to the most important facts. I wonder if the library gave them a fine for doing that? LOL

      Wonderful book George! Thanks again.

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