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What is the foundation of self-confidence or self-trust ?

I would like to know what you did in the past to boost your self-confidence.I believe that we all have different levels of self-confidence no matter who we are.I have not yet seen or heard of anyone who can claim : " My self-confidence is always at the highest level in any situation."
I guess that there is always something we can do if we need higher self-confidence.

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    Jan 29 2013: You have to fail A LOT. You also have to succeed a lot. That's what builds self confidence. It helps you define the world you walk in. Other than that it's just talking yourself out of being scared.
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    Feb 2 2013: Knowing we are part of a much bigger entity, whose sole intention is our well being.

    Thank you for the question Haingo Rajaonarison!! I have a picture of Madagascar on my wall that uplifts the spirit time after time:)
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    Gail .

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    Jan 30 2013: Self confidence is one thing. Self trust is another. Both are grown through practice of one sort or another Learning is one of those practices.

    You can't have self-confidence if you do not have self-trust. To have self-trust, you must know yourself well. You must know what your belief system stands for and excise all irrational beliefs and resolve all conflicting beliefs. You must control your emotions rather than be controlled by them. Then you will trust yourself because you will no longer be lying to yourself - whether overtly or covertly.

    Now apply this to self-confidence. If you know that you are trustworthy (to self), then you know that you can depend on your judgment of your ability - whatever that judgment is. If you see room for improvement, then you will not have as much self-confidence, though if the task asks you to interact with others less knowledgeable than you, you can exude all the confidence in the world and no one will know that there are areas of deficiencies because the audience will not know what questions to ask that would expose them.

    So self-confidence is relative. Self Trust is not.
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    Jan 29 2013: Well, the best thing I ever did was take a social skills course at college. About eight of us met with two psychologists. They would give us an assignment to meet with someone else from the group during the week somewhere on campus. One of us would have to strike up a conversation with a stranger while the other watched. Then we would reverse roles, the other one would have to strike up a conversation with a different stranger while the first one watched. It was great practice in how to meet new people.
    • Jan 30 2013: Huh, that's an interesting class. I basically did the same thing when I was a missionary for my church, but take that to about thirty people a day for two years. I loved it. Tons of fun. It's ridiculous how many different kinds of people there are, right?
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    Jan 29 2013: People have different paths to understanding their own strengths. Really young kids often take affirmation from others very much into account, which is why home and school environments that undercut confidence are so damaging at that point.

    The ability to assess your own strengths is developmental, with adolescence almost always a time of GREAT interest and growth in that capability. By that age (and earlier if people around you are more extremely judgmental) kids almost always recognize that the opinions of adults around them are not always valid. At that point kids do a lot of reflecting on themselves and their values but also weigh heavily often what their peer groups think.

    I think at any age self confidence comes from reflecting on your strengths and concrete evidence that you have of them. Toddlers recognize that they can walk reliably when they have seen themselves do it often enough. A person experienced in running gets a good sense of whether he can reach a certain place at a certain time. Once you have seen yourself mastering something, overcoming a serious obstacle, or meeting a real challenge, you become confident that you can master other things, overcome obstacles, and meet challenges. You have what it takes.

    Starting in childhood, people need to make their own empirical tests and notice the results.
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    Jan 29 2013: Paul, the Christian Apostle formerly known as Saul of Tarsus, said this : "I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me." [ The Holy Bible, Philippians 4:13 KJV].
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    Feb 3 2013: the belief that everyone is unique in their own way !
  • Feb 1 2013: Being confident comes from your skills, upbringing, good cultural values, rate of success...., so does self-trust.
  • Feb 1 2013: Confidence and trust are interdependent. Confidence carries the past evidence of trust in the future. Past and future tense.
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    Jan 31 2013: G'day Haingo

    Acceptance in what is because if we don't accept we are non-accepting therefore in conflict & if we are in conflict with everything around us or even some of these things we tend to have very little confidence or will.

    Love
    Mathew
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    Jan 30 2013: .
    Good SLEEP makes human the smartest and cleverest animal.
    Naturally, it will make you self-confidence also.


    (For SLEEP, see the 1st article, point 12 (3), at https://skydrive.live.com/?cid=D24D89AE8B1E2E0D&id=D24D89AE8B1E2E0D%21283&sc=documents.)