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Gary Malloy

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If you took the BEST THING you ever did in your life to help another and that is how you will be judged. Are you happy with the answer?

Take an inventory of yourself and what you have accomplished with regards to helping others and answer honestly if your happy with your accomplishments.

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    Jan 27 2013: Why isolate one best action? From your narrative description, I read a broader view, that a life of tireless loving, helping, and giving can make a gratifying life indeed for those with such a focus.
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      Jan 27 2013: Fritzie,
      I agree that a life work of helping and caring is very gratifying. This question was posed for those who had to even think about such a question and make then think about their life.
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        Jan 27 2013: I understand, Gary. Some people live only for themselves and understand well that they are making that choice. Others are busy living only for themselves without realizing there is another, not entirely self-centered way. And some embrace a life of developing themselves with a major purpose of loving and giving to others.

        These are all options, and I understand your interest in having people reflect on the possibilities.
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    Jan 27 2013: I would never judge myself (or you) using the scale you suggest. I have more respect for myself (and you) than that.

    I am very happy with my accomplishments. This said, the journey never ends.
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      Jan 27 2013: Like the last sentence. Used to think you might reach an end to all your problems, but now think you're going to have some until you die.
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        Jan 27 2013: Greg,
        Life is a series of events. How you deal with those events is going to have a significant impact on your total life. Nobody gets through life without dealing with some type of issues.
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    Feb 3 2013: My inventory is not colored by what I have done for others. I don't think that it's moral to use that as a guage. My inventory has to do with honesty and courage to be honest in all things and in all ways.
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    Jan 29 2013: Kate, thanks for the reply. I never mentioned talking about any good deeds that a person does. This question has many more replies than I thought it might and the variations of answers and interpretations has been even more interesting. I am asking in YOUR MIND how are happy with the way you treat people? The picture is from a trip to China and it was the only one I had that fit the perimeters of the picture size. What makes you think I might be wealthy? Because I have been to China? Kate I have also been to Australia and it was a fabulous experience. Spent most of my time in Melbourne and the city of Adelaide was so pretty. Stay well.
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        Jan 31 2013: Enjoy taking exception - you are a judgmental person - your bio does not match up with your words and actions. You should practice what you preach.
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      Jan 28 2013: Kate,
      I have to take exception with your reply. We are a society of rules and laws. Everyone is judged by their behavior and actions. You can use whatever words you like but, the reality of it is we all are judged by our peers for our professional and personal life. I posed the question to hopefully raise the question to some that they might take a look at how they have and are treating others. Hope to hear from you again it's always a pleasure to interact with people who are thinking about their actions and life. Stay well.
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    Jan 27 2013: Gary, what I'm working on is raising awareness of the unusual diet I've been following for five years. For five years I have lived on skim milk. Every day I drink between one and two gallons of milk, and I don't eat or drink anything else. For me it's been great, I've lost 70 pounds, and maintained, high cholesterol gone, energy way up, eyes feel better. I believe this diet could benefit others, so I continue to mention it when I get a chance.

    My current project is to see if I can get "official" approval for this diet from nutrition scientists, because I know some people who hear about it are going to have objections. I'm trying to figure out if there really is anyone who officially gives a "seal of approval" to a diet. As best I can tell, my best contact would be the National Academy of Sciences in D.C., so I am slowly working on my approach to them.
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    Jan 27 2013: Yes, I'm happy with the answer. The best thing I've done is something I'm still doing. Do you want to know what it is?
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      Jan 27 2013: Greg

      How could I possibly know? Share if you like.