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Re-defining privacy!

Someone is trying to break into my accounts (Gmail & Facebook), I thought of this: If he kindly asked me, I'd pass it to him/her without any doubt!
I have only three conditions: 1- No delete , 2- For a limited time we agree upon, & 3- Tell me what you've learned about me from what I have... this is an open invitation BTW :)
... Just to put you on context, I have more than 7.5 GB of Emails in my Gmail account, and on Facebook, I have 5320 friends , 2554 followers more than 230 photo albums on Facebook (some of them contain over 200 pictures)...

I imagined this scenario :

Not this one:

Is it a violation of my friends privacy? What are the limits here?
Any many questions popped up in my mind...Your input is highly appreciated.


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    Jan 24 2013: Do as you wish, yet it would be interesting to understand your definition of 'friends'. Before and post Facebook and its derivatives and if it has changed over it and 'them' in numbers.

    Personally I know for certain, that, if we became friends (in my definition) and you would open your accounts to the public as mentioned, this way of communication would only contain my trivialities, that's for sure and if I knew you would not post any spoken word of mine, you would get to hear 'the rest' of it over a beer at the pub ... :o)

    Re-defining privacy can only be done individually, as that's what it was anyway in the first place.

    Yet I would not consider it fair to any of your friends for you to open up in public, without them knowing about this intention of yours right from the beginning of your 'friendship'.

    In literature I made only one exception of my personal rule not to break into other peoples privacy without them inviting me for it, and this was the 'Diary of Anne Frank' and because I wished to know about her to understand the history of my nation through her eyes.

    Yet if you would reset your accounts and let your friends know about your new defined privacy, I don't see any hurdle why you should not do this.
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      Jan 24 2013: Thanks Lejan for your input...

      Sometimes one "breaks into other peoples privacy" without knowing from the beginning... in our extended family cultures... questions like " when are you going to have a baby? for newly married couples is normal... in South Korea where I lived for awhile, asking about your age might be the first question to ask, because it determines the type of language I'll use to communicate (Senior vs. Junior) ...

      I couldn't get the reason of why breaking into 'Diary of Anne Frank' privacy? Do you mean that sometimes knowing a certain piece of information "matters to you" breaks the "privacy" charter?

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        Jan 26 2013: Breaking into other peoples privacy without knowing is either a lack of knowledge (in cross cultural encounters for instance) or 'just' a lack of sensitivity. Both can be learned and adjusted to, as well as to watch ones own curiosity, which is the only motivation to enter another persons privacy.

        I have never asked the 'baby question' to anyone, as this is as long non of my business unless I am freely invited. To me this isn't difficult, for others it might be...

        The 'age question' is generally a bit odd in my view in western cultures and it mainly seem to apply to woman, as if it was a failure to grow older for this gender. A false interpretation of age in my opinion and probably based on the illusion of 'eternal youth', which is strongly promoted in this culture for no obvious reason.

        Your 'age example' for South Korea is interesting because it exposed my lack of understanding. Usually I would assume that the 'age range' becomes obvious and precise enough within a direct encounter yet then I recalled my personal difficulties to assess this 'age range' for Asian people especially within the large range of all the 'middle' ages. So far I was taking this as a personal lack of enough experience in 'reading' more fine facial details, yet might it be difficult for Asians too I wonder now which may caused this habit to openly ask for ones age?

        The 'Diary of Anne Frank' as an inherent part of world literature still is as what is once was intended and written: A diary! And diaries, at least to me, are one of the most private forms of writing and unless openly allowed, non of anyones business in general. So while I was reading the diary of Anne, I constantly felt of not acting appropriate according to my moral compass and it left me with a feeling of guilt ever since. Nevertheless I do not regret to have done this, as it opened emotionally a chapter of the history of my nation, which was important to me and so I have to take my personal consequences for this.

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