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If this were the last day of your life, how would you spend it?

It just occurred to me today that finishing my most urgent project at work wouldn't be on my to do list. I would love to read some thoughts or stories.

...After reading some responses, it seems that most people would do what they always wanted to do and take care of things that they value most. But why wouldn't we do these things in the first place, regardless of how long we have left? I don't mean it as a rhetorical question - it would be interesting to read some thoughts.

Topics: Values

Closing Statement from Arkady Grudzinsky

I'd like to thank everyone who participated in this conversation. Lots of interesting thoughts and perspectives.

Perhaps, most notable conclusions:

1. At the end, we focus on what matters most for us, and for most people it's people we love - most people would spend time with family, friends, write letters, etc.

2. It should not matter whether we live the last day of our life or not. Perhaps, we should just do what we do any other day, like having a cup of nice tea, and enjoy the moment.

It's hard to summarize everything that was said here - worth reading.

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    Jan 25 2013: Now,I know the feeling of heartshock when you suddenly are told you just have one day left.

    Tears come into my heart-deep-core,especially when i saw the follow saying"My observation while spending time with people who were dying, is that the most regret and sorrow, was because of what they DID NOT do that they WISHED thay had done during the life adventure"
    ,noted by colleen steen.

    For i am sure i 'll be that kind regretful and sorrowful person when i am dying.

    So,i would rightly go home and stay with my mum and dad.

    Take a walk with them on a quiet country lane of my village,

    And that is a long way,Having some heart talking,

    About old days,about sentiment of old days,about my thanks for them.

    Still together till "the time" goes down.

    My parents ,for my better education,did a lot of hard work those years.

    And they never said a complaint character about this,On the contrary,“you needn't sorry about it,we are very happy to do everything for you.It's also our responsibility”they told me.

    And beside,they give me all their love that my poor English couldn't write it out.

    I love my mum and dad and i am grateful for things they did for me.
    • Jan 25 2013: Parents...
      I guess we all are (at least) grateful for their dedication and love as we should be.
      I think we can never pay it back no matter how hard we try...

      Their love it so deep.
      The truth is, still, we don't know it until we really 'know'. People say that usually they realize how much their parents have loved them when they all pass away.

      There's a famous doctor in Korea who keeps saying that we shouldn't be unkind to our parents ‘cause if we were, we would regret it in our entire life when they’re gone. He says expressing our gratitude and love to them is the most important thing we should keep in mind.

      I from time to time think about them, but they almost always think about me.
      I’m concerned about their health when they’re really sick, but they’re worried about me a lot more times than I would’ve expected.

      Send my warm regards to your parents, and let’s take good care of our parents, Frankey.
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        Jan 28 2013: Just now,i find my reply for you written on a few days ago is not on your below.
        I may lost my mind at the time.lol
        Did the cunning reply saw you?
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      Jan 28 2013: Dear Frankey, Your English is perfect..and you said all the things I would say...there is a lot more, for which, there are no words in language. Cherish walking with them on the country road now and remember to stop and share the sunset. Or make them take their shoes off and just feel the grass:)
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        Jan 28 2013: Hi Juliette
        Thank you for your inspring both to my English and my love for parents.

        This is enjoyful,walking,talking,Then stoping them on the grass,and letting sushine in.

        Your notes"listen, learn, love, live, create, eat, heal, thank. be myself "would be sure to make you perfect and your life wondering.
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          Jan 29 2013: Dear Frankey,
          Thank you for your kind words.......I wish you every happiness :)

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