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Arkady Grudzinsky


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If this were the last day of your life, how would you spend it?

It just occurred to me today that finishing my most urgent project at work wouldn't be on my to do list. I would love to read some thoughts or stories.

...After reading some responses, it seems that most people would do what they always wanted to do and take care of things that they value most. But why wouldn't we do these things in the first place, regardless of how long we have left? I don't mean it as a rhetorical question - it would be interesting to read some thoughts.

Topics: Values

Closing Statement from Arkady Grudzinsky

I'd like to thank everyone who participated in this conversation. Lots of interesting thoughts and perspectives.

Perhaps, most notable conclusions:

1. At the end, we focus on what matters most for us, and for most people it's people we love - most people would spend time with family, friends, write letters, etc.

2. It should not matter whether we live the last day of our life or not. Perhaps, we should just do what we do any other day, like having a cup of nice tea, and enjoy the moment.

It's hard to summarize everything that was said here - worth reading.

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  • Jan 23 2013: I would play house with my little sister and give her a big kiss.
    I've been busy doing my work. I couldn't afford spending time with her lately.
    She's been asking me, "Play with me, sister. My dolls are waiting for teas. Would you like to join us?"
    My answer was, "Later, sorry. I'm busy, hon."

    For my last day, I want to "be" with her.
    Not just physically, but with all my heart.

    We might watch Toy story again. lol
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      Jan 24 2013: Dear Elizabeth,
      It appears that your heart is with your little sister all the time......hopefully, you can join her for tea one of these days.

      My brother died last week, a good friend's husband died this week, my neighbor just called me this morning....their daughter died yesterday....

      Don't wait dear Liz, to MAKE the time to spend with those you love.
      Love you,
      • Jan 24 2013: I'm so sorry, Colleen....
        Please accept my sincere condolences.

        Yes, I'll keep that in mind, Colleen.
        I should not wait until the very time comes...

        And for what it's worth, guess what?
        Today, I had one good day with my sister.

        :) She is happy. So am I.

        Love you, too
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          Jan 24 2013: Thank you Liz, and I LOVE that you spent the day with your little sister:>)

          My observation while spending time with people who were dying, is that the most regret and sorrow, was because of what they DID NOT do that they WISHED thay had done during the life adventure.

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