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Arkady Grudzinsky


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If this were the last day of your life, how would you spend it?

It just occurred to me today that finishing my most urgent project at work wouldn't be on my to do list. I would love to read some thoughts or stories.

...After reading some responses, it seems that most people would do what they always wanted to do and take care of things that they value most. But why wouldn't we do these things in the first place, regardless of how long we have left? I don't mean it as a rhetorical question - it would be interesting to read some thoughts.

Topics: Values

Closing Statement from Arkady Grudzinsky

I'd like to thank everyone who participated in this conversation. Lots of interesting thoughts and perspectives.

Perhaps, most notable conclusions:

1. At the end, we focus on what matters most for us, and for most people it's people we love - most people would spend time with family, friends, write letters, etc.

2. It should not matter whether we live the last day of our life or not. Perhaps, we should just do what we do any other day, like having a cup of nice tea, and enjoy the moment.

It's hard to summarize everything that was said here - worth reading.

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    Jan 19 2013: Hi Arkady,
    This question is close to my heart now, because my brother died two days ago. When someone I love dies, there is usually an evaluation....again.....in my heart and mind.

    I live each day as if it could be my last, and it is also the first day of the rest of my life. I embraced this concept 23 years ago when I almost died. My experience with myself, and all those I love who have died, is to DO and BE in each and every moment, what is important to us. Leave nothing unsaid or undone, and that is how we live and die without regrets.

    I miss my brother's physical presence in my life, and I am also aware of everything we shared for 66 years, all of which I treasure very much. We told each other many, many times how much we appreciate and love each other, in so many ways.
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      Jan 19 2013: My condolenses to you and your family on his passing.
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        Jan 19 2013: Thank you Fritzie....I appreciate that very much. We are sad and relieved, as he was challenged with cancer. He said he wanted to just go to sleep and not wake up, and that is exactly what he did.
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        Jan 20 2013: Thanks Kate:>)
        It is indeed a gift to go to sleep and not wake up when the body is challenged as his was. For him, it was the end of a struggle with a body that was compromised, and as I said, we are relieved that the struggle is over for him.
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      Jan 20 2013: Sorry to hear about your loss, Coleen. Your words are an inspiration, as always...
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        Jan 20 2013: Thank you Arkady...I appreciate you and your inspiring explorations as well:>)

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