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Does self compassion help self esteem?

There is no doubt in my mind that self esteem helps you suceed in life and will no doubt bring more happiness. But achieving slef esteem it seems is the one of the biggest issues of our society. I have been across situations where self esteem has been confused with self importance -- are they the same?--

For someone to have self esteem, they must esteem their true unique, and flawed self -- not a puffed up delusion of who they think they are -- their ego fueled by self importance.

Real self esteem can only come from self knowledge and personal development. But what about self compasison? does that help? is that a step towards getting the self esteem we all need in life? Does having self compassion mean pretending or trying to be who we are not to feel better about ourselves? Isn;t that the same thing as having no idea who we truly are?


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    Jan 18 2013: I suppose compassion can be more or less healthy. It's important in life to always do the best you can, to not shrink from challenges, to take some risks. If everything you do isn't 100% successful, then you can still say well I tried, those were hard situations.

    On the other hand, just giving up without a fight would be taking it too easy on yourself, in this case your compassion for self wouldn't be healthy.

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