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Dyed All Hues

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How can overly empathetic/sympathetic people compete in this world? Do they eventually end up jaded and bitter?

The saying goes "nice guys finish last". I interpret that "nice" means overly empathetic/sympathetic people who sacrifice themselves for others happiness. Kindness seems to be a sign of weakness in that saying, as though people prey on those kind-hearted people. If it were true, then how do kind people compete in this world? Is it some kind of evolutionary Yin and Yang, where a balance of certain personalities need to exist for progress to happen or do people have peaks and troughs of kindness in them?

Update: Thought I'd share a fascinating article found in the comments below:


It is about the differences between being nice and being kind.


Closing Statement from Dyed All Hues

Thank you all for your well thought comments. I have learned a lot and I hope you've all taken some knowledge from this as well.

Be mindful of those around you and tread lightly on the paths made by your brothers and sisters of humankind.

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  • Jan 28 2013: ...Empathy and sympathy are two different things...empathy makes you strong inside and sympathy helps others to travel through their difficult time...empathy belongs to understanding others and sympathy to just support...

    ...to me nothing can be overly in both...overly is the action taken, taking them as the basis...balance is only possible by doing the same with yourself...before taking decision be the same with yourself... create a similar empathy for yourself...see the things not from one end only...

    with regards

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