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Dyed All Hues

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How can overly empathetic/sympathetic people compete in this world? Do they eventually end up jaded and bitter?

The saying goes "nice guys finish last". I interpret that "nice" means overly empathetic/sympathetic people who sacrifice themselves for others happiness. Kindness seems to be a sign of weakness in that saying, as though people prey on those kind-hearted people. If it were true, then how do kind people compete in this world? Is it some kind of evolutionary Yin and Yang, where a balance of certain personalities need to exist for progress to happen or do people have peaks and troughs of kindness in them?

Update: Thought I'd share a fascinating article found in the comments below:


It is about the differences between being nice and being kind.


Closing Statement from Dyed All Hues

Thank you all for your well thought comments. I have learned a lot and I hope you've all taken some knowledge from this as well.

Be mindful of those around you and tread lightly on the paths made by your brothers and sisters of humankind.

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  • Jan 20 2013: I think it takes a certain wisdom and humility to be kind and to remain kind.
    But there is a point at which being overly kind becomes a negative for those receiving it and those giving it.

    A person at the bottom can be humble, yet humility didn't put them there.
    Likewise, a person can be at the top, and humility did put them there.

    I don't think the saying is as true as it is just a kind of retort that people sometimes us as a way of explanation or as a belief.
    Kindness is not a weakness even if another thinks it is. To them it is but it is possible for them to see it as a strength and to learn that it is or can be, just that.

    People who are "unhealthily" kind are just that, unhealthy. If you don't chew your own food, who will?

    We humans don't have a selfish nature. We are not by nature selfish. Selfish is a learned and taught attribute, for lack of a better word.
    Humans are born prematurely and their brains have to develop after birth, outside the womb.
    They are immediately bombarded with the ideas, thoughts, beliefs, opinions, conclusions, directions, actions and shared experiences of others, saturated as it were, for years and years.
    No matter which way you look at it, it is impossible to let a child develop without the influences of others.

    But I just can't stand humans continuing perpetrating and perpetuating what I consider false beliefs about our "human nature".
    We are not these negative and so-called bad things, by nature. We are taught them by mentally ill people known as parents, who have been taught them, have learned them and have come to believe them as well. So they pass them on using a tired, 'ole phrase at times that goes something like this:

    "It's for the good of the child."

    They are and have been, the long time perps in society.

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