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Amy Peach
Saint Louis, MO
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Director of Instructional Technology, Fontbonne University, St Louis, MO USA

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When do you keep pushing and when is it time to give up?

Learning to pick battles is an important life lesson. While working with people who have very different views is valuable in many respects, when does it cross the line into a battle of egos that doesn't move you closer to a goal? Please share experiences and insights you've had...be they professional or personal.

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pat gilbert 50+
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Jan 16 2013: A motto I have found useful is to keep your own council, it is an idiom, and rarely understood.

Another one is not to blame as that concedes victory to the blamed and defeat to yourself

If is useful to understand the others' perspective, not just empathy.

I think it is important to understand people's need to be right which is covered very nicely by Kathryn Schultz

http://www.ted.com/talks/kathryn_schulz_on_being_wrong.html

The value of PR and good manners and willingness

The importance of not neglecting your best friend, you

The value of being your own adviser

The value of why covered very nicely by Simon Senick:

http://www.ted.com/talks/simon_sinek_how_great_leaders_inspire_action.html?utm_expid=166907-15&utm_referrer=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.ted.com%2Fprofiles%2F1076764%2Ftalks

The value of exchange of ideas trumps everything else covered beyond nicely by Matt Ridley

http://www.ted.com/talks/matt_ridley_when_ideas_have_sex.html

The danger in a meme and the illogic that memes create

http://www.ted.com/talks/dan_dennett_on_dangerous_memes.html

And mostly that when ever you have conflict it is created by a 3rd party, NO EXCEPTIONS This is the one that is creating your problem
- Fritzie Reisner 100+
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  Jan 16 2013: Excellent TED talk links, Pat. I have not seen/heard/read the Dennett and will put it on my list for today. EDIT: Great talk, Pat, though here is one I wish had gone longer.
  - pat gilbert 50+
    
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    Jan 17 2013: Yea Krisztian turned me on to Dennet I put in the same category as Kathryn Schultz and this guy
    
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ODXgGS50AVY&feature=share
    
    All 3 point out something important.
- Amy Peach
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  Jan 16 2013: Pat, I'm busy today but now you're going to suck me right into these talks, aren't you? :)

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