Madhavi Gavini

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Have you created your own path?

Creating a path by "stepping out into the unknown" as opposed to following a path that is well-trodden,"comfortable and familiar" is challenging. Kindly share your experiences and the journey of your venture.

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    Jan 13 2013: We all choose our paths. When I decided that I wanted a different kind of life, I chose a different path, and life began to happen big time.

    There is a saying using flying as an example. If you want to change the altitude, you have to change the attitude. EXPECT TURBULENCE. I surely did find turbulence!

    As I faced life, not willing to continue to make the same choices (because if I do what I have always done, I'll simply create what I have always created), I found myself without a foundation. All of my understandings were suspect and many of them were then suddenly seen as irrational. (Fearful time) I needed a new worldview.

    Some people do fine just letting go and walking another path. Not me! I craved understanding. I began educating myself about as much as I could and in as much depth as I could grasp. Eventually, I had a worldview that made sense, and then the walk became very easy indeed. (by comparison)

    To take the road less traveled, one has to accept total responsibility for one's choices. That's not part of the culture that I came from. But I learned about self-honesty and its importance. I learned that the truth really does set you free.

    To choose a different life, one has to be willing to give up ALL that is warm and familiar. That doesn't mean that ALL will be gone, but it might be. It WILL change. Relationships WILL change. Until self-honesty was developed, I was unable to see how much of that which was warm and familiar were the very things that I'd been using to create the prison that trapped me in a life I now understand was wretched by comparison to today.

    Today, I am different. I like who I am. I'm no longer owned by ego. I own my consequences. Though fears still haunt me from time to time, I now know how to walk through them because I know they're irrational.

    2da, I feel isolated on occasion. but I prefer that to the crowded prison I once inhabited. I'm certainly not lonely

    I also know that the journey never ends.
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    Jan 13 2013: G'day Madhavi

    We have all created our own unique path no matter how simular it might seem to others however I do know what you mean like stepping out from a cultural path onto another cultural path or thinking & doing things out of the norm. No matter what we do no one on this Earth has, is or ever will tread the exact path as you & I which makes everybody’s life special & unique.

    As for myself I would say I have trod on a very unique path with my spiritual & scientific concepts which has isolated me from main stream society at times.

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      Jan 13 2013: G'day Matthew,
      Thank you for your insight!
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    Jan 13 2013: Who today has not followed a unique path, stepping into the unknown in many respects? Few people likely have followed precisely the path anyone predicted they might.
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        Jan 13 2013: To me it feels like bragging to point to the specifics of myself or my career, so I don't do it. I will say only that I know no one whose career took the same shape as mine and would ask that beyond this I be permitted my privacy.

        I raised the point I did in response to Madhavi's question because I think people sometimes forget that we ALL create or follow unique paths. Everyone's journey is different.
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    Jan 19 2013: Yes Madhavi, I am aware of creating my own path with mindful choices and decisions along the way.
    He says it much better than I can....

    The Road Not Taken
    Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
    And sorry I could not travel both
    And be one traveler, long I stood
    And looked down one as far as I could
    To where it bent in the undergrowth;

    Then took the other, as just as fair,
    And having perhaps the better claim
    Because it was grassy and wanted wear,
    Though as for that the passing there
    Had worn them really about the same,

    And both that morning equally lay
    In leaves no step had trodden black.
    Oh, I marked the first for another day!
    Yet knowing how way leads on to way
    I doubted if I should ever come back.

    I shall be telling this with a sigh
    Somewhere ages and ages hence:
    Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
    I took the one less traveled by,
    And that has made all the difference.

    Robert Frost
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      Jan 19 2013: Frost's poem 'The road not taken' is a perfect epitome for my is one of my favorites.
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        Jan 19 2013: Glad you like it too Madhavi:>)
        You ask, in your introduction....."Kindly share your experiences and the journey of your venture."
        There is not enough room here my friend, and the poem says it all:>)
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          Jan 20 2013: I understand Colleen. I admire you for your courage and the contributions you have made to the society. You are a great role model!
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        Jan 24 2013: Thank you Madhavi,
        Contributing is much more pleasurable than the alternative:>)
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    Jan 14 2013: Life is too short for foolish experinments with the precious gift; so what I've done is to look out for great men and women whose lives has produced good fruits and admirable results and then to find out their guiding principles.

    There are principles that govern human growth and happiness. These natural laws are woven into the fabric of every civilised society throughout history and are the foundation or root of every individual, family and institution that has endured and prospered.

    This is a path that I've found, this is a path that I tread.
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    Jan 13 2013: "Are you creating your own path?"
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      Jan 13 2013: Nicholas, I am trying my best.
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        Jan 14 2013: Your question is innately static/solid in nature.

        More than anything a path is constantly designed and redesigned for the individual by the individual

        Hence why I feel my revision was efficient. Life is not static. It's always being worked on.

        How much work you do on life is how much you think about and act on your path.

        I think this is where the line between happiness and dismay exist. Knowledge and ignorance. Are a fuzzy issue. They seem to always end up there... These "lines" - the difference between calling it one thing or the other... What do we really know except we want a path?

        Your answer shows contempt. Trying, effort. That's the main battle. The rest is application.

        As for my self. I focus on surviving in this constantly changing world with major goals and personal desires for a large path or to be on many paths. A path is a subjective idea, what is a path and how to live with that definition/conception and for/with the idea.

        A path is a paradoxical issue.. What is a path? Do you walk what you preach?

        I question every step on my journey in life. Whatever a path is. I know constant inquiry is essential to walk it entirely and with content. Life long philosopher; teacher and student.

        Be realistic than a positivist, not vice versa
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          Jan 19 2013: Nicholas, I appreciate your thought-provoking response.
          "Your question is innately static/solid in nature."
          My question is based on inspiration derived from the related talks.
          and the intent was to gain insight into others' experiences. The related talks might help you understand my question.
          "Your answer shows contempt. Trying, effort. "
          It was not my intent. I am reticent ,as it is a work in progress.
          "What is a path?"
          'A path' in the context of one's vocation.
          "Do you walk what you preach? "
          "Be realistic than a positivist, not vice versa."
          I usually prefer to be a pragmatist and a positivist than a realist.
          Thank you for sharing your ideas.
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          Jan 19 2013: Dear Nicholas,
          I do not agree that Madhavi's "answer shows contempt". It looks like honesty to me:>)

          That being said, I wholeheartedly agree with the rest of your insightful comment. As individuals, we can constantly design and redesign our path, we have the ability to take many different paths, and a "path" may be very subjective....always changing. I also agree that "constant inquiry is not only essential, and in my perception, fun and interesting as well.

          Did you ever hear..." life is what happens when we're making other plans".......LOL:>)
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        Jan 14 2013: Never stop trying.
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      Jan 13 2013: Kate, There are a lot of women who have established themselves in professional careers.
      My family is very supportive and encouraging. I did have my own share of challenges and I have grown with each one of them.
  • Jan 13 2013: I have been down many.
    Many I made I guess.
    Each and every one has been a dead-end and now I am very close to the last dead-end.
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      Jan 13 2013: RC, I believe that each dead end leads to a new beginning.
      All the best.