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Terry Torok

Founder at Angel Producers, Founder at Live from Earth


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Why were YOU were born?

What is your Why and How are You? So what if it matters... The why can be a wild discovery about yourself, an interesting moment when and if, you discover it... and very amazing if you will share it here. [thank you]


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{sorry, a last minute iphone edit placed an inadvertent extra "were"} Some people believe the most important day of thier life is the day you discover WHY you were born. The individual true stories below relate to the power of parenting and being at peace with (or without) the pursuit of the "why". I was inspired and amazed by the open sharing of each story of Why. And Why not, when you considered the interesting people who participated! Thank you.

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  • Jan 21 2013: I was born because it made sense at that time to have 2 kids.

    Social pressure sometimes gets to me and convinces me that I have to be special, that I need a purpose, that I'm going somewhere, but I have come to find that looking for a purpose didn't make me happy.

    My life has absolutely no purpose, and that's the way I like it. Although I have to fight everyday to stay real. Some might call it a purpose, but for me it's pure survival. It's moving my consciousness from my brain down to my guts.

    Thanks for opening this discussion and taking the pulse of TED fans.
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      Jan 21 2013: omg, I think this is one of the starkest, plainest, and truest identifications of reason-for-being. hilarious and RIGHT! : )

      i was born because my mom and dad believe in the chinese zodiac and needed my symbol to "balance the household" lol (more common than ppl realize...)

      my walking around in life thinking i'm "special" and need/have a "purpose" is just because said parents did a great job in the early years of convincing me of it.
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        Jan 21 2013: I always look forward to your comments Genevieve, thank you and now I can thank your parents too, they apparently plotted the zodiac perfectly... I find that you balance most TED talks... Maybe our need or belief that we have a higher purpose is a flash of fantasy, a flash of insight or a moment of truth... {i can't put "special" and "purpose" together, without thinking of Steve Martin in "The Jerk"... but his "special purpose" was the tool in procreation, a theme which continues to reoccur here and apparently everywhere} Maybe being born out of love and or passion, is a jumpstart... but then again occasionally I get the privilege of hanging out with second gen. child soldiers, some of their starts in life, were tragic at best, yet many manage a drive to live at a level of purpose, not just for themselves, which would seem enough, but also to live for others... Sorry, this was a departure from where I began, which is, Thank you, for you and the Zodiac you rode in on... ;-)
      • Jan 22 2013: I like your point, Genevieve ! My parents got a c-section appointment on the 4th day of the 4th month, with some kind of 4th dimension non-sense in mind ... to make matters worse, I became left-handed. pfffff
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      Jan 21 2013: Thank you Kamlesh, know and no social pressure... appreciate the pulse, which is pumping pretty loud, awesome thoughts.... the art of life appears processional... It's the bee & honey thing... think your headed somewhere, then at 90 degrees, you might become aware that you are pollinating part of the planet... and you didn't plan it. The buzz in our head, and the direction we head, are often not the same... just my gut, but you have a very interesting mind... appreciate your thoughts.
      • Jan 22 2013: Yeaaaaah, bee & honey, I never saw it that way before.

        I used to be obsessed with my role in this world. Every encounter was a chance to transform a life, to help reduce the amount of suffering within a person. I really thought I could influence people to become more happy, and I wanted to do it fast. Then I realized I couldn't gage where each person stood in their spiritual process, so I couldn't control how fast a thought would sink in, or if it ever would.

        So I'm learning to let it go. I'm basically trying to shut down the buzz in my head, because as you say, it's usually misleading. I remain aware that I have a role in this world, as does every piece of energy surrounding us, but I accept that I have no idea what it is. It can be scary at times and make me feel like I'm skidding, but then I look around me, and find pretty much everyone is skidding unconsciously.

        Thanks for your insights Terry, I really appreciate. Have fun with your show.
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          Jan 22 2013: this is a most honest insight - you put it right out there... thank you... feel like you read my head, but said it better)
          You never know when a 'peace' of information lands with someone, or yourself... My highschool music teacher once blurted out something profound to the class, it didn't hit me untill after college, I tracked him down to tell him years later to thank him... he was like, "I said that?" ... "yep" He said, wow, I really needed to hear that right now.
          I'm not sure if the bee has a good buzz in its head, but I hope so... should be high on all that pure pollen... lot of people talk about the butterfly analgous to people "giving back" starts as a catapillar into total consumption until munching 10x it's weight, then goes into a shell and a fantastic transformation... emmerging as a butterfly, and as the analogy goes... now able to "give back." So you can be a consumer, live large, munch away, maybe experience a transformation and give back and share your good work. The analogy is all cool, until a big bird consumes the catapillar. (oh s%¥t)
      • Jan 22 2013: then the taste of the caterpillar will be so disturbing the big bird will become a vegetarian, revealing the purpose of the caterpillar

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