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How is it possible to turn an argument into a mutually beneficial outcome?

when two involved parties are arguing, it seems to be over a disagreement where both sides of the argument want an outcome that conflicts with the opposition.

however, often both sides of the argument want the same outcome (ie. peace) and it is not a matter of getting there, it is a matter of how to get there.

how can ordinary people step in to offer advice, where needed, to create a mutually beneficial outcome for both sides of an argument?

does anyone have examples of a resolution where two sides of an argument were dealt with according to the desired goal for everyone involved? please share your experience.

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  • Greg Swanson

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    Jan 23 2013: Recognize what people want, then trade them for what you really want. Keep calm and they will feel foolish for escalating; stick to facts, and they will do the same. Care about the person and it will be hard for them to not care about you. I know this all sounds hippie, but you are talking about altruism which is the philosophy; hippie is its practice.

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