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How is it possible to turn an argument into a mutually beneficial outcome?

when two involved parties are arguing, it seems to be over a disagreement where both sides of the argument want an outcome that conflicts with the opposition.

however, often both sides of the argument want the same outcome (ie. peace) and it is not a matter of getting there, it is a matter of how to get there.

how can ordinary people step in to offer advice, where needed, to create a mutually beneficial outcome for both sides of an argument?

does anyone have examples of a resolution where two sides of an argument were dealt with according to the desired goal for everyone involved? please share your experience.

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      Jan 21 2013: Very well said Prakhar, from beginning to end of your comment. Most important, I think/feel, is that "everyone needs to feel understood, nurtured, supported, comfortable and safe". If those elements are missing from an interaction, there is less possibility of connecting and understanding each other.
      • Jan 21 2013: it is my pleasure to get a reply back from you on my comment..please keep your blessings on me further..:)
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          Jan 21 2013: Thank you Prakhar....it is my pleasure to connect:>)

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