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How is it possible to turn an argument into a mutually beneficial outcome?
when two involved parties are arguing, it seems to be over a disagreement where both sides of the argument want an outcome that conflicts with the opposition.
however, often both sides of the argument want the same outcome (ie. peace) and it is not a matter of getting there, it is a matter of how to get there.
how can ordinary people step in to offer advice, where needed, to create a mutually beneficial outcome for both sides of an argument?
does anyone have examples of a resolution where two sides of an argument were dealt with according to the desired goal for everyone involved? please share your experience.
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greg dahlen 20+
As a general rule, I think in life it's always important to be humble and to keep in mind that you could be wrong about your position. Many times I've gone at someone thinking I was so smart, but as I listened to them and asked more questions, I realized they were more knowledgeable and correct.
I think it's also quite important to clarify any point you don't understand in the other's statement. Even if it's a small point that doesn't even seem to have to do with the main point. Sometimes clarifying one small point will open the door into understanding the whole other point of view.
If you find yourself at odds with a serviceperson, and you aren't getting anywhere, you can politely ask to see their supervisor. Many times a supervisor has been able to clear up in three minutes what I couldn't get from the first person in twenty minutes.
griffin tucker 10+
i was looking for a logical formula to solving any argument, but now i'm not so sure it's possible.
perhaps i was being too simplistic...