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To write a daily blog to discuss the issue of gender identity, and to answer some basic questions about what being transgendered is like.

I am a 50 year old trans-woman, and have spent many years dealing with my own issues about gender identity. Gender has always been a bit of a hot subject, and the idea of people wanting to actually CHANGE genders makes it even more so.

Many peoples opinions of what being transgendered means comes from what they see about "transsexuals" on the news or in TV programs. These sources tend to show a bit of a skewed perspective (after all, if it is normal, it ISN'T news), but if no one is saying anything to the contrary, how will people know?
Things are quite a bit better than they were 10 years ago, but there is still work to be done. If the media is not ready to do it, I thought I would give it a shot.

My plan is to start a blog in January about the kind of things I have faced over the years. Some of what I write will be humorous, some will be a bit sad, but it will all be written from the heart. After people learn a bit more about me, I will start a question and answer section. I hope this will be used as a way to gather information about the topic rather than just generating "hate mail."

For now, I want people to comment about what they think about this kind of blog, and ask that people list some of the questions that they might want answers for. Please make any questions suitable for a PG audience.

Thanks,

Kendra

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  • Jan 9 2013: It is interesting how often the words "transgender" and "prostitute" are linked together. Can I say that no one who is transgendered ever works as a prostitute? Of course not. The reality is a small percentage of our community does do that kind of work. But, don't assume that just because it happens to some that it must happen to all.

    Perhaps rather than asking about the "way" a transgendered woman would prostitute herself, you should be asking "why"? As a general group, we face a high level of discrimination. We are a visible minority, particularly when first starting out, when our ability to be perceived as authentic to the gender of our choice is limited.

    As a visible minority with limited protection under the law, and with the stereotyping that goes on about us, "normal" jobs can be harder to find. It is one thing if we transition after having proved ourselves in the workplace, but it is something else again to try to transition with few life skills, as the younger generations often face when trying to transition when still in their teen or early 20's.

    I cannot speak personally bout working as a prostitute, a I have never done so. I imagine it comes down to survival for some of us, just as it does for a "woman-from-birth" who is in the same situation.

    As for my own romantic life? All I will say is I am loved, and will leave it at that. Ypu have no more right to ask me about the details of my romantic life than I do of you.

    TED is a great place to learn about things, and perhaps one day, someone will do a TED Talk about it. I appreciate that a blog isn't going to work for everyone, and I myself have decided to wait for a while.

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