Are you a “People Pleaser”?
Are you more inclined towards doings things to please others? Do you thrive on pleasing others and meeting or exceeding their expectations?
I believe that we are more likely to go above and beyond and do things to please the ones who matter most to us than take the extra effort to please our own wishes. People are selfless when in love, very generous when giving to our children, highly motivated to please a coach or an inspirational boss at work, or often more kind and charitable to please their Gods. Some do several great things in their effort to please their peers, parents or love.
The opposing argument applies to those who loose their own identity trying to live up to other people’s expectations or even extend themselves too far for people who are perhaps not really worth the trouble. This often happens because they have trouble saying NO or are emotionally trapped by the acceptance and adulation that they get from pleasing others. Many Celebrities and Artists thrive on pleasing people.
Is pleasing people a positive behaviour? I understand that like all things there is a limit and a point where you need to stop and say NO. But it is more common for a person to end up doing greater things in life and achieving success when they try to please those who they are inspired by or please a higher value for their opinion.
Do people pleasers make a better world?