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What are the primary responsibilities of parents and school? What are that of student?

Parents and schools are primary responsible to develop and evolve a child. But many times they shift their responsibility to each other, starts is a blame game. What do you feel is major task or responsibility of each?

How do you see the child responsible in all?

  • Dec 10 2012: Very young children and toddlers, as well as older children, have no network or support group. They are expected to deal with "difficult" parents, relatives, siblings, other children, classmates or teachers by themselves, unless they are lucky enough to have an attentive parent or family member close by who has time to spend listening. One can sit in any day care center and guess whether a particular child is suffering from unexpressed frustration, anger or even rage. Any adult can find a group to go to where they can share their feelings or frustrations on just about anything in their lives from an alcoholic spouse to murder of a child, and be listened to with focused attention. Parents Anonymous provides opportunities for parents to get emotional support while they deal with their "difficult" children.
    Why does our society provide the myriad of support groups for adults and do not do so for our children? Do children not have the same pain and anguish adults have? Why do we expect children to live day after day with the stresses of social adjustment taking place in their life place especially in school, without opportunity to express their frustrations, pain and anguish to someone who they feel heard by?
    Human anger doesn't just dissipate it must be expressed in some way. The most productive way for any human, including children, is to be able to tell a trusted person about upsetting incidences that happen in his or her life with whomever, soon after they happen. The most crucial part of verbal expression is to be heard. They must also be able to emotionally trust others. For children of all ages, being paid attention to and listened to without giving advice is key to their healthy emotional growth. Anger and rage cannot flourish when a baby, toddler or older child feels paid attention to and heard. Where in society does a little toddler go when upsetting incidences happen to her in her family or at the day care. Where does she feel paid attention to and heard?
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    Dec 2 2012: Parents are to lead by example at home, showing the children how to live and relate with other members of the community. Children are watching this (including the state of the marriage and home).

    Teachers should try to be effective in communicating with learners, they should inspire creativity and encourage curiousity by being passionate and dedicated to duty.

    Students should educate themselves. What is learnt in school is only a beginning(not 'the' beginning); education is a life-long thing.
  • Dec 1 2012: Maybe some really bad parents are only inept and doing the best that they can. How much more can be expected from society?
  • Dec 19 2012: It is difficult to set boundaries on where each parties responsibilities lie. On one hand, giving the parents more control allows them to direct their child on the path that they deem suited for the. However problems arise when the parents either expect something that the child isn't capable of or something the child refuses to do. On the other hand, giving the child more responsibility allows for freedom of creativity. However, problems arise when the child chooses the wrong path and is irresponsible.

    The main thing that I think parents and schools are responsible for is providing a productive learning environment for the child that is structured enough so that all necessary skills are taught while still giving the child the power to choose how they want to live. It will be very difficult for parents and schooling systems to reach a perfect balance but that is what must be strived for if harmony is to be achieved.
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    Dec 10 2012: I agree with Kriztian. There should be a free choice of schools, which will create an atmosphere of competition.

    Would that also suggest that education might be monopolized within certain areas?
  • Dec 4 2012: I think the three objects have own responsibilities respectively.

    First of all, the family should inculcate proper and healthy values in children and lead them to act morally and ethically. Children are prepared to face a variety of problems through the step.

    Next, the parents can send their children to school and make them to learn a lot of things, such as the class on curriculum or relationship with friends and teachers.

    There is a limit to the degree of school's achievement that we can expect. So it is wise for parents not to ask for school too much.

    Lastly, children were obliged to obey parents in my opinion, because parents think and behave for their children and their best convenience.

    I appreciate this chance to participate in. I hope I didn't offend you:)
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    Gail .

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    Dec 2 2012: I think that the question itself bypasses the possibility of a cure for all that's wrong with schools. The problem is systemic.
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      Dec 10 2012: System I agree, but I'm sure that not all parents or schools are perfect. "Make best with what is current, while working on a systematic shift" is how I think about the matter.
  • Dec 1 2012: The Child development has to be understood from the point of "Societal knowledge of child upbringing". How much knowledge

    does the schools have on child development? how much knowledge does the teachers have? how much knowledge does the parents

    have?

    We can debate it at a conceptual level or in an ideal state. But we need to understand the realities on ground. At an

    implementation level we find that the knowledge about "child development" is very varied among all the actors: School

    Boards, State Governments, Urban Parents, Rural Parents, Educationists, School Managements, Teachers. Due to this a lot of

    chaos is occuring today in India.

    For example: the urban educated views it differently from urban uneducated. Often times the understanding of the school is different from parent. The scenarios are quite complex. Some parents do not have understading at all.

    Now coming to the point of conversation: "What are the primary responsibilities..?". Firstly the School has to define what

    it means by "child development" and "its approach" towards age specific child development. Then it has to educate the parent on definition. Then it has to spell its own responsibility and the responsibility of the parents.Then the teachers have to be trained to work with the parents.

    The responsibilities can be categorized as academic, behavioral, physical exercise and others.

    Before debating on "shifting responsibilities" we need to understand the complexity of the problem. This cannot be generalized, especially in India. On a large scale the knowldege is not organized within actors and not uniform among the actors.

    Even before debating this point I think we should see how we can bring about a common understanding and build school as a platform in educating parents. Indian Schools today cannot expect parents to take assumed responsibilities.It is very tough.
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    Dec 1 2012: if we let parents choose schools, the problem is pretty much solved, isn't it?
    • Dec 3 2012: choosing a school in itself is becoming a big challenge for parents. The understanding on right balance of education, faculty, vision of school management, infrastructure, pass results, other curriculum and many more things and above all their own academic education...
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        Dec 3 2012: and your point being ...? a lot of things are not easy in life. you decide to accept a job offer at the opposite corner of the country. you decide to choose one university faculty over another. you marry a woman who later might turn out not the right choice. you choose a doctor to treat your serious illness.

        btw this is perfectly irrelevant to the discussion you have just opened. the task was the distribution of responsibility between teacher and parent. free choice of school solves it in an instant.
        • Dec 3 2012: thanks Krisztian for your reply again...when we move into the different socieities, we find that to choose the schools doesn't remain an easy task for parents...they felt confused i that...many schools that apparent look good behaves differently with the passage of time...its not about one or two years, parents plan it for a long time, if possible than for about matriculation minimum...

          I agree to your point that choosing school can resolve a lot but...what responsibilities a school and share mutually? which are the sole responsibility of either of both?

          I am opening it relevantly for those who are not capable to decide. I take parenting as a trainer and facilitator and many parents have such a kind of experiences.
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        Dec 3 2012: i find it disturbing and outrageous that a parent would be simply unable to choose school for his children. such persons should never have children in the first place. but if they decided to have, man up, and start researching the issue right now.