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Using your life obstacles to formulate solutions to your life challenges

If your friend or a loved one asked to help them solve a problem you are more likely to find a solution much faster than if you were to face the same problem yourself. You approach the problem as a challenge with rational thinking sans emotions and draw your wisdom learned from your own life obstacles to formulate a viable solution. Why are solutions to others’ problems clearer to you than your own? I have learned these 3 simple lessons on overcoming life obstacles and moving forward:
1)No Escape: Life will throw you your share of curve balls all the time. But it is in your choice and reaction that you can either get hit by it smack on your face, miss it or lean into it and whack the hell out of it. There is no escape from these curve balls. Every single person, rich or poor, successful or struggling, young or old, regardless of their social status, economic conditions, age, gender or education, will face their share of adversities in life. But how we choose to react to them, tackle them, solve them or dodge them lies absolutely in our choice and reaction.
2)Do not waste your time: Life is too short to waste your time on insensible living. Our life wasted on holding prejudices, hate, egoistic living, sense of self entitlement, vanity, dwelling in self sympathy, narcissism, arrogance, and above all deliberate ignorance of facts and realities soon brings you to a time and situation in your life where you feel you have done absolutely nothing worthwhile. Cut the emotions, be rational and work towards a solution. Forgive, discuss a solution, give up hate, be humble, put your arrogance and ego aside.
3)Realize your blessings: a) – The natural ones that you have been blessed with. i.e. your family, siblings, parents, home, good health, support, love, courage, and comfort they offer. b) – the ropes of blessings that you yourself weave for times like these . i.e. your good deeds in life, the friends you choose, your education, your efforts on self improvement and wisdom.

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    Nov 27 2012: This is the definition of life? I would recommend against solving other people's problems as it is a matter of who owns the problems and the people get quite irritated if you try and take their problems away from them.
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      Nov 28 2012: Hi Pat, I mentioned ..."If your friend or a loved one asked to help them solve a problem ..." I do not recommend offering unsolicited advice either...but people do ask for help.
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        Nov 28 2012: I hear you but this is thin ice, people want to convince you how big their problems are how unsolvable they are, and you come along and arrogantly fix the problem, how dare you. I think the better way to deal with this is to ask the question, what can you do about that.

        I have listed to endless babble about the "daunting problem" and listened to many people say well ah you could do this or that all the while the problem haver states that won't solve it because..., all the while becoming more irate. I simply ask ok so what can you do about that, they then state all of the things suggested and are done talking about it.

        If you don't believe me try this the next time someone want you to "help" them.
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          Nov 28 2012: Yes people can device their own solutions and often it merely takes a few pointers to invoke their own thinking to solve their own problem. Thats exactly the point of my this conversation. The idea is to solve your own problems by facing a few facts as opposed to getting bogged down by emotions ..... If you read the complete text you will see my point...
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        Nov 28 2012: I read it again and saw your point again?

        My point is that the person decides to the be the problem or to be the solution. The question of "what can you do about that" places them at the solution perspective.

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