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Porn's effects on women users


I was directed here from the above listed TEDX talk. The Great Porn Experiment, which is in fact a response to this TED talk.

There's a lot of talk about how internet porn affect men, who are the majority users, I'm curious if there are any studies (and hopefully talks) about effect on women users. I know how porn have effects on porn actresses, but I'm asking about effect on how porn affect women who watches porn.

Or perhaps there's no effect, or social effect for that matter, since the number is too insignificant to have a study done to it. But women do represent half of humanity, and I'm sure such a study would present some interesting insights to how porn affect human, and not just men.

What do you think/know about this topic?


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    Dec 2 2012: *cough* Women watch and enjoy porn too. (Different women enjoy different sorts of porn - there is a tendency to lump 'porn' together as one big amorphous mass, when, like 'literature', it comprises many different approaches.)

    When I launched http://makelovenotporn.com/ at TED 2009:


    everything I said about porn acting as default sex ed in the absence of an open, healthy attitude to and dialogue around sex in the real world, applies just as much to women as to men. (Check out the 'About' page on the site for just some of the thousands of emails I've received daily over the past four years about MLNP from young and old, male and female, gay and straight, from every country in the world.) Young women write to me distressed about the fact that their boyfriends are doing everything they see in porn. But young men also write to me to say, my girlfriends are doing everything they see in porn; they're putting on a performance, and it's getting in the way of a real connection.

    For detail on how porn influences women as well as men, please read my short TED book 'Make Love Not Porn: Technology's Hardcore Impact On Human Behavior': https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/make-love-not-porn/id452296228?mt=11

    Those emails inspired me to launch https://makelovenotporn.tv/ just 3 months ago - this is the New York Times on that venture: http://www.nytimes.com/2012/09/09/fashion/cindy-gallops-online-effort-to-promote-real-not-porn-fed-sex.html?_r=0

    The porn industry, like every other industry, is male-dominated. 99% of mainstream porn is made by men for men. There are women making porn, and 'feminist porn' , but too few of them. The best future is one equally influenced 50/50 by men and women. The shape, approach and content of the porn industry will change when there are many more of us women creating ventures within it; more women will enjoy them, and men too, because they will be innovative and different - like MLNPTV :)
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      Dec 2 2012: Interesting Cindy, Good on you.

      Is there an illusion out there in the average males mind that they are/should look like those buffed hairless sixpacked porn actors? as well as there should be only young and dumb perfect females who are constantly gagging for it? is this the attitude that is out there as opposed to what was there 20 years ago?
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      Dec 2 2012: OK women watching porn might be a generational thing. I do not know any woman of any age that enjoys porn. Erotica yes, porn no.

      Sex is not just a pleasurable behavior. Not if you know what you are doing. If a woman is going through guys like condoms (been there, done that), she might not understand how sex affects the spirit. How that spirit connects with another spirit when there is love and commitment. A woman is lucky if she gets the chance to experience that. Getting your rocks off is not the same as a blending of spirit,. I don't know how better to explain it.

      In talking to some of my guy friends, they understand that too. They understand when there is love there is a connection of spirit and being with each other. I would imagine it does not matter about sexual orientation. That is why when there is a spiritual connection a break up can be devastating. You loose part of your spirit. It's not the same as mutually parting with a good lay.

      That is why porn is so uninteresting and banal. That is also why sex can be boring and banal. I would rather go to biology class.

      But I would clear my schedule for a man who understands this.

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