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Feyisayo Anjorin

Freelance Director, Afro-Carribean Media Group

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If one's reasoning is not based on love, one is more likely to make wrong choices than right ones.

We've got the best of us, we've got the worst of us; and we've got everything in-between.
I have not seen any human society that sees love as a vice. There have been debates about who should be the first object or subject of our love; and we argue about priorities and preferences about love; some hold on to ancient wisdom, some would think wisdom is as new as fancy gadgets.
Love is desirable; we seek it and give it, and we proclaim it without shame.
If no voice is strong enough to smother the glory of love, could we be right to say that love is the ultimate guide?

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    Madhavi Gavini

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    Nov 27 2012: Feyisayo, Personally, I do not believe that love is the ultimate guide to make the right choices...I wish it was...as it is easy to make choices governed by love.
    Right choices are usually justified by reasoning based on righteousness/doing the right thing...which is comparatively difficult to practice in our daily lives.
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      Feyisayo Anjorin 50+

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      Nov 27 2012: I doubt if love (just as righteousness) is as easy as you think.
      Not so many people would go the extra mile when it becomes inconvinient.
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        Madhavi Gavini

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        Nov 28 2012: "'Not so many people would go the extra mile when it becomes inconvenient"
        Feyisayo, based on love, people will go the extra mile even if it is inconvenient ..love overrules inconvenience and it becomes the initiative.
        However, my reasoning was regarding the right and wrong choices. When we judge our actions (right/wrong choice), do we stop and ask ourselves 'is it based on love?' or 'is this the right thing to do?'
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          Colleen Steen 500+

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          Dec 1 2012: I agree Madhavi that love usually overrules inconvenience.

          Why does a choice have to be based on love OR the right thing to do? Can a decision not be based on love AND the right thing to do?
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        Colleen Steen 500+

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        Dec 1 2012: Feyisayo,
        How can love ever be an inconvenience?
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          Feyisayo Anjorin 50+

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          Dec 1 2012: There are times that we have to make certain sacrifices to keep our commitment.
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        Colleen Steen 500+

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        Dec 1 2012: Yes, and how about loving that opportunity? Whether something is a "convenience" or "inconvenience" is a perception....is it not? I embrace the idea of doing what I love, or love what I'm doing. I do not feel that I ever make sacrifices to keep a committment. I LOVE the process of "being" human, and giving/receiving in relationships is part of the human life process.
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          Feyisayo Anjorin 50+

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          Dec 1 2012: I agree with you. Thoughts about 'convinience' and 'inconvinience' usually results from the feeling that things have to be loveble and lovely before they are worth loving.
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        Colleen Steen 500+

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        Dec 1 2012: True Feyisayo,
        So the idea of convenience/inconvenience comes from expectations? How we think/feel things "should" be? So, if we change our perception of how things "should" be, and let go of our expectations, there really is no such thing as convenience/inconvenience? That feels like unconditional love to me:>)
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      Colleen Steen 500+

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      Dec 1 2012: Madhavi,
      Why do you say doing the right thing is difficult to practice in our daily lives?
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        Madhavi Gavini

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        Dec 1 2012: Dear Colleen,
        When we are faced with obstacles/unforeseeable circumstances, sometimes we are faced with two choices- doing what is right, doing what is easy/comfortable. Doing what is right is not easy..the reason why we have many issues of moral concern in our society.

        The reply option was not available in your earlier question "Can a decision not be based on love AND the right thing to do?"
        Yes , this would be ideal.
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          Colleen Steen 500+

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          Dec 1 2012: I agree Madhavi, that life offers challenges, and sometimes we have more than one choice regarding how to deal with the challenge. Often times, how I look at the circumstance may change my perception. I honestly don't understand why you say that "doing what is right is not easy". How about if we perceive what is "right" as the more comfortable choice? If we change our perception of the challenge we can create the "ideal".....in my humble opinion:>)
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        Madhavi Gavini

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        Dec 1 2012: " If we change our perception of the challenge we can create the "ideal"."
        Well said Colleen!

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