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Debate: We should use these techniques to teach our children to be happy

We should teach our children that the best way to answer a question like ¿how are you? every day, instead of "fine thank you", should be: "happy", "excited", etc,

It will influence the entire chemistry in their body, and they will become happy human beings.

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    Gail . 50+

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    Nov 10 2012: Teaching children to remember to be happy is easy enough to do. Have them put together lists of what they like to do 1) by themselves, 2) with one other person, 3) with two or three other people, and 4) with more than three people.

    Help them recognize when they are unhappy and allow them to choose to go into ME time to remember how to be happy. They go to their list. Choose something that they like and do it until they recognize that they are happy. Then take that happiness back to the group.

    I used this method on a group of 8-10 year olds one summer and all of the mothers were knocking on my door telling me that their daughters had been transformed and wanting to know what ME time was.

    One mother talked of how her daughter lost her shyness. Another said that the change was astounding. The daughter and mother used to fight constantly. Suddenly, the daughter was cleaning the ginnie pig cage and her own bedroom every day without being reminded. She helped her mother fix dinner and they actually had fun doing dishes together after dinner. The mother came to me after weeks of not a single argument with her now very helpful daughter.

    I talked to the daughter about this. She said that she discovered that she is happier when her room and the house are clean. She is happier when she sees her mother's appreciation. She is happier after she cleans the Ginnie pig cage than she is feeling bad about having to clean it. She is happier helping her mother (a single mother) than she is arguing with her mother. She now says that doing dishes with her mother is FUN.

    Some of these families were permanently transformed by a summer focused on learning how to be happy all day long.

    I do have to say that in the process, we found out that our unhappy moments were worldview based. We simply accepted another one and immediately, after two weeks of constant fighting, they spent the rest of the summer without a single argument.

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