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Abstinence: a failure to society

Abstinence is this idea that not having sex will stop children from having sex and getting pregnant.

Since the application of abstinence programs, the teen pregnancy rate and STD rate have grown substantially higher, compared toEuropean (Netherlands) countries.

One reason is because sex isn't frowned upon and is open discussed. Unlike the U.S. having this mentality that it's aboo and shouldn't be discussed, and should only happen inside marriage.
These Ideas cause teens more anxiety, because they want advice on sexual relationships but are afraid of disappointment and harsh ridicule from their parents. Sex Ed in school is rare, instead their teacher's focus on Abstinence how it's the answer to all.

Failing to emphasize on safe sex practices and to be prepared with protection, and supplying condoms, or advocating how to have a good sexual relationship. This idea causes teens to rebel and sneak out at night.

Unlike the other countries example. Their Parents are so open with their teens having sex. They let the teen do it in there parent's home and inform the parent's of the other partner about there child's whereabouts.

Simply because they rather know that the kid was home safe with someone they know and met. Instead of sneaking out with a random stranger in a shady place. They understand sex is a part of being human and having a relationship.

Topics: abstinence homosexuality pre-marital sex sex sex education
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  • Random Chance 30+

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    Nov 11 2012: I'm surprised your topic is still here.
    I made a comment and it was immediately deleted by Ted..
    I said nothing untoward, suggested nothing illegal or morally wrong and agreed with most of what your topic spoke to.
    Apparently Ted is a big brother and free speech is not protected here.
    I am almost out of here simply by dying soon but this really cements home to me
    that there is nothing any of you can do to stabilize the insanity of the majority.
    They need a dose of sanity really soon before they all fall prey to their own thinking.

    Good luck

  • Patience Gardener

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    Nov 9 2012: How many people honestly "sneak out with a random stranger in a shady place" to learn how to have a good sexual relationship?

    Abstinence is the only certain way to prevent pregnancy since birth control or condoms don't always work. I'm not saying it's "the answer", I'm just saying it is the most dependable preventitive measure.

    If the U.S. really thought it was a taboo why is it mentioned or shown in entertainment so much?

    How okay parents are with what their teen's sex life varies, and there are parents out there that are fine with it, because they too realize "sex is part of being human and having a relationship".

  • John Smith 30+

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    Nov 5 2012: Abstinence "education" is nothing more than force-feeding religious dogma to young impressionable minds. It should have no place in a mature, secular society.
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    Fritzie Reisner 100+

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    Nov 5 2012: I am surprised at your claim that sex-ed is rare. It has been a requirement in this state for at least twenty years and perhaps much longer, not every year but once in late grade school, once in middle school, and once in high school.

    Here is a chart that shows by state whether sex ed must be taught and separately whether students are required to learn about HIV/AIDS, contraceptives, and abstinence. 22 of 50 states require sex education.http://www.youthdevelopment.org/aef/educationrequirements.htm

    I include this here because it can be useful for people, particularly those who don't live in the US, to see when there is variation.

    Here is a useful summary document if you prefer not to make your own tallies. It addresses not only how many states require sex education but also the topics they are required to address.
    http://www.guttmacher.org/statecenter/spibs/spib_SE.pdf
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      David Hamilton 50+

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      Nov 7 2012: I would only add to this, that the most populous states all have real sex ed. New York, California, etc... Most Americans were given a European style sex ed class... In the smaller, more religious states, they have chosen abstinence only, and there are a lot of those states, but we're winning them over... America is not quite as pro abstinence as you suggest Kenya.

  • Kenya Perry

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    Nov 5 2012: Seriously why do people take sex advice from a professional virgins? Sorry father.
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