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What impresses people?

I want to limit the scope of the answer to just two options: ABILITY or BEING?

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ABILITY: everything which manifests itself externaly i.e. knowledge, education, certificates, skills, image, wealth, etc. Ability is superficial.

BEING: everything one really is. It expressees itself in personal understanding, warmth/coldness, charisma, empathy, etc. Everything which springs from being is rooted deeply in one's own self.

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    Nov 10 2012: Jedrek,
    You say you "want to limit the scope of the answer to just two options". That certainly IS limiting, and I don't understand why you would want to do that.

    In my perception, "ability" and "being" are very interconnected.
    The definition I find for Ability is...: "the quality or state of being able"......."BEING able".

    Everything which manifests itself externaly, knowledge, education, certificates, skills, image, wealth, etc, BEGINS with personal understanding, warmth/coldness, charisma, empathy, etc.

    Everything which manifests externaly, springs from "being" which is rooted deeply in one's own self. In my humble perception, they are not seperate. Wherever we are, doing whatever we're doing, there we are with our "self"...being able:>)

    I believe what impresses people most, is consistency in expressing all parts of our "self" with honesty, authenticity, respect, compassion and empathy:>)
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      Nov 10 2012: Hi Coleen, thank you so much for your contribution.

      The options of 'Ability' and 'Being' are here in order to keep the conversation at as general a level as possible. I believe that a strong principle can be applied successfuly across the whole spectrum of examples, and it is a strong principle that we are looking here after.

      You say "Everything which manifests itself externaly, knowledge, education, certificates, skills, image, wealth, etc, BEGINS with personal understanding"

      I am affraid that it is not necessarily so. Moreover, I am affraid that a great deal of people invest in their Ability-side without understanding. Such people are easy to recognize, as they are more reptile-like and cold.

      However, I couldn't agree more with your final statement. I do believe that people ultimately are impressed by 'the consistency in expressing all parts of our "self"'

      What I am trying to point out by this conversation is that is is awfully important to find a way to develop Being-side. I do not think any education system or school (traditionally understood) can ever do something with it. Collecting diplomas and certificates belongs to the Ability-side, and this, in my opinion, is disproportionately well developed in contrast to the Being today.

      Everyone would profit from developing the Being-side, because it is the Being that ultimately impresses people and has the capacity to make a change.
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        Nov 14 2012: Dear Jedrek,
        Recognizing and understanding interconnectedness, is a very "strong principle", which is as "general" and simple as we can get. Trying to seperate something which is connected, is complicating the issue....in my humble perception:>)

        The idea you present that "...a great deal of people invest in their Ability-side without understanding. Such people are easy to recognize, as they are more reptile-like and cold.".... seems rather silly.

        I agree that it is important to discover all "parts" of our "self" because in doing so, we experience our own authenticity.

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