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Why is life so complicated?

First of all, I want to say thank you for even taking the time to read this! My name is Fonkou, I am 16, currently a high school junior! My question is, why is life so complicated? My dream in life is to be a talk show host, or a well known motivational speaker. But there is really no specific path that will lead me to that. If someone wants to be a doctor, they can just go to medical school, earn a degree and woohoo! That's not the case in the things I want to do. I am not good at math and science, I have no interest in them whatsoever. I want to major in communication when I get to college, but I have websites, my parents, friends telling me that a degree in communications will get me absolutely no where. I just feel like a total failure right now. I feel like I have nothing going on for me. I wish I loved chemistry and math. My father wants me to do something in the medical field, because of the job stability but I don't want to, cause I know I won't enjoy it, and I don't won't to spend my life doing something that I dread doing. To sum this up, I have an idea of who I want to be. I don't want a mansion, three cars, millions in my bank account, I wouldn't mind having those things though! But I know those are not the things that will fulfill me. When I close my eyes, I see a nice house, with my partner, beautiful kids. Me on my own talk show, or me giving a speech in front of hundreds of people, helping people as much as I can, and doing everything that I want will bring joy into my life. I feel like everyone else got a life's instruction manual and I somehow didn't get one. Any advice would truly help. I respect everyone in the Ted community, its filled with amazing, intelligent people. Thank you so much.

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    Oct 10 2012: My first piece of advice is to look up one of the active members, James Zhang (Type it in the search box). He is a communications major of some sort and likely considered where it will get him.

    Second, you mention talk show host or motivational speaker. The thing about television jobs is that many more people want them than can get them. But if you enjoy interviewing people, you could start doing that anytime and write up your interviews in a blog. There are lots of free sites that host blogs. You can start with all your friends and relatives as an audience and you can get used to interviewing people.

    Motivational speaking? You are a high school junior. There are some things you have probably learned that would be valuable to kids at the grade school where you went, or the middle school. Maybe a teacher you had would be interested in your coming and talking to the current kids about how to manage the late grade school and middle school years.

    The bottom line is, a good first step is to start engaging in a version of the sorts of activities that interest you rather than strategizing at this point about how to become famous. Maybe in a few years doing something meaningful will be more important to you than being famous.

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