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why we fall in love?
why we fall in love?
when we know this that we have to face lost in it or then y we struggle and why we suffer for it.do we love for our experience in life or to change our life? i was in love but i lost lassssss.i was in love with sssssssssssaaaaaaaaammmmmmm.he did not recognize me.i lost him he hurt me alot
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Gerald O'brian 50+
The head is big because it was selected by culture to be big enough to carry down traditions, because we've evolved to depend on culture to survive, because it's cheaper than biological evolution.
So we fall in love because of bipedism, and because the cost of a big brain is ballanced by the cheap cost of cultural adaptation.
Sam Rock
" Roz rote hue kehti h zindagi mujhse , ek shaks ki khatir mujhe barbaad na kr"
"Every day my life cries and request me that please don't ruin me just for one person"
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Sam Rock
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Hey how are you???
Danger Lampost 10+
We've layered so much culture and thinking around this that we can also get caught up in all these higher levels of love, but at it's core - I think it's an evolution thing. That may seem degrading for some who look at love as a spiritual experience - how could that arise from a mating trick?
Falling in love had to be an incredibly powerful experience in order to work genetically. Your body releases all kinds of chemicals when you are in love, which physically alters your brain, thinking, and behavior. Like a drug, some get hooked on the high - although the initial high, like every drug experience, eventually (given years or decades) wears off and you have an opportunity to transition to another kind of love.
As it is the other person which is the source of your love "high", if that person is suddenly gone for whatever reason, you must transition back to (or forward to) your not-in-love way of being. And as wonderful as falling in love feels, you now have to pick yourself up (you've fallen, right?), heal your bruises, and move forward again.
If you're not out there swinging around in the trees, you'll never fall, but you'll never enjoy life either. Gotta get out there and swing around in the trees, which means sometimes you fall and get hurt, but hopefully frequently you are experiencing glorious joy.
W. Ying 10+
We love for keeping our DNA alive.
Otherwise, there is no human in the world.
Love is driven by our instincts (ancestors’ successful experiences saved in our DNA) unconsciously.
W. Ying 10+
5. Sexual Love (Primary Symbiosis)
Sexual love is an essential component of the second period of primary symbiosis in a person’s life.
a. Definition
The instinctively falling in sexual love of a man and a woman is to further bio-accurately match (including "running in") their data-programs of both instincts (ancestors’ successful experiences) and acquired pre-instincts (personal acquired wise, knowledge, accuracy, and etc.) as well as the concrete physical bodies.
Sexual love ought to start only after the fully development of a person’s brain as well as body. Starting before the physiologically full mature of a boy or girl means haste and waste. It would cause problems often than not.
b. Success or Failure
Failure in sexual love is just because of the bio-matching with a wrong person. Then, quit it and match with someone else again.
However, sexual love of a marriage ought to last definitely until the end of the couple’s life. This is because our life purpose of keeping our DNA alive needs us to do it this way.
Never be misled by invalid happiness prevailing in today’s society of big cities or highly efficient telecommunication techniques. There, the invalid happiness is increasingly enhanced extraordinarily.
c. Match Scope
The size of symbiotic group in which the matching proceeds will impact the matching strongly. The smaller the symbiotic society or group is, the easier the matching will be. For an example, may it be extreme, the only two dwellers of a man and a woman in an isolated island will surely match with a probability of 100%.
Sexual Love
Strong person may not match,
Bad match isn’t you are not strong.
Play dumb for all little matters,
Big ones will not go wrong.
Then your happy marriage,
Will last century long.
"
pat gilbert 50+
Colleen Steen 500+
I cannot say that I have ever "fallen in love" either. I have loved people on many different levels, and the only time I have felt hurt, is when I had expectations that the other person was not willing or able to meet.
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u are saying rite
Colleen Steen 500+
We fall in love because it is pleasurable. As humans, we generally want to love and be loved.
Love does not cause struggle and suffering. It is our expectations, and struggle is a choice.
We love based on the reasons we CHOOSE to love. What is it for you? What are your expectations about love? Do you fall in love for your own experience of life? Or do you fall in love hoping to change your life? It's important to be clear with what YOU want and need from a loving relationship.
If he did not recognize you, there was nothing to lose. If he decided NOT to be in relationship with you, or decided not to fall in love with you, it was a choice he made. You were hurt because he did not do what you wanted him to do?
Frans Kellner 100+
Bruno Carre
"the heart has its reasons which reason knows nothing of". (Blaise Pascal, French philosopher). In my books, this is the best explanation that I've found so far.
It's what we, humans, do in life. We fall in love and sometimes fall (out of) love. I fell in love several times, thinking (sorry: feeling) she was the One. Got married. Divorced. Fell in love again and then fell.
The best way to cope with love when love hurts is to learn more about yourself and love yourself. Falling in love will happen again. I strongly believe that people feeling good about who they are and being happy with what they do kind of radiates and attracts the attention of people.
If it hurts losing someone you love, you will be able to enjoy even more the next relationship, don't worry.
Last but not least, here is a quote by Churchill: 'if you're going through hell, keep on going". One day you will wake up and feel this lost love no longer hurts and you will be ready again to fall in love.
fareedun hocane
you are at some point rite but it is impossible to forget love on the other side you made me hopeful as well
Bruno Carre
perhaps it is impossible to forget for the moment, but just for now. One day...!
:)
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W. Ying 10+
The following quotation may solve the invalid happiness part of the problem:
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a. Husband
The husband half is biologically assigned in charge of food-seeking, habitat constructing, defending, donating all kinds of co-body-safety messages ceaselessly to his wife (kissing, embracing, and so on) .
His ability and smartness come mainly from the ceaseless intimate encouragement of the other half of the marriage ---- the wife.
b. Wife
The wife is biologically assigned in charge of the child bearing, child bring up, house hold, and etc.
She transfers all the physical substantial materials from her own body into the baby’s. Also, she exhausts all her spiritual energy to bring up the baby or child ---- the DNA-carrier of both the husband and wife.
That is where her mother-greatness and beauty come from.
Her beauty and virtue are support-enhanced by the ceaseless intimate co-body message from the other half of the marriage ---- the husband.
"
Iulian Sociale Ingegnere
Osama Qayyum
Distinguish between attraction and love.. sometimes you are in the moment and feel it as love and when you pull out of it, you realize..
Anyway, being more rational and mature is the way to go, i think..just a share, don't know anything really, coz haven't been through this wreck..
fareedun hocane
love can only identified by a person who know what is love .love has not meaning of ditch or cheat it has not the meaning of to hurt some one.some people get their achievements in love by forgetting this that they are hurting someone.
Osama Qayyum
fareedun hocane
i learn from past then,when i have any experience of love in past my love is first time in my life so what can i learn from past nothing.
love is not complicated thing it makes our lives complicated after the lose in love which i faced
Osama Qayyum
about experience, i don't know what happened with your relationship, but it seems you have faced something terrible.. NEXT time, be careful
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ya i got lesson in my life but i am still alas that how much i was sincered in love
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Noveed Hussain
ut still living a happy life although sometimes it hurts a lot but I know how to handle this situation.
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ya tell me how
Noveed Hussain
Sorry again
Glen Lillquist
Farrukh Yakubov 50+
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Salim Solaiman 50+
Feyisayo Anjorin 50+
Hence love is also a choice. But love would not grow and remain as it is if it is not nurtured with commitment. When we become intimate with a person and we realise that the person is not perfect (just as we are not), then love is tested; and only the committed would weather the storm.
That is when we really know if we are true lovers or just someone looking for something that would never be found (a perfect human being).
We are not loved because we are perfect, we are perfect because we are loved.
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Noveed Hussain
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Ken brown 30+
A young couple hand in hand down close to the waterfront, he pulls her close, she leans in as he wraps his arm around her as they both say goodbye to the orange sun....Love.
Rick Ryan 10+
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/love-without-limits/201111/what-is-love
Quoted from the above linked article:
"Love speaks out for justice and protests when harm is being done. Love points out the consequences of hurting oneself or others. Love allows room for anger, grief, or pain to be expressed and released. But love does not threaten to withhold itself if it doesn't get what it wants."
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Regina Bonfim
Solidus Sharp