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Noemí Herrero

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Is love a rational process?

While speaking with a friend the other day, he told me this: "I don´t believe in love because love is a rational process". I was in shocked as complete believer of "romantic love". Since then...I couldn´t stop reading and wonder...Am I wrong?? I have being living 32 years old believing in love and then love is just a reponse to values??
It is with a person’s sense of life that one falls in love—with that essential sum, that fundamental stand or way of facing existence, which is the essence of a personality??
One falls in love with the embodiment of the values that formed a person’s character, which are reflected in his widest goals or smallest gestures, which create the style of his soul—the individual style of a unique, unrepeatable, irreplaceable consciousness. It is one’s own sense of life that acts as the selector, and responds to what it recognizes as one’s own basic values in the person of another. It is not a matter of professed convictions (though these are not irrelevant); it is a matter of much more profound, conscious and subconscious harmony???
Then...my colleagues...is love just a rational process??? I have being waiting all my life for something that at the end is just a rational process of selection as if i was going to the market and select what I am going to eat the rest of the next "let´s say" one month, one year, all life ??


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  • Nov 5 2012: Rational process of selection? When you feel what you feel, it is based on likes and dislikes although anything can grow from mutual respect. So being this, there is a selection process unless you use time to discover another person as your guide which in most part begins with the attraction as stated previous.

    Is there love...tell someone who is in love that they are not and see what answer you get back. We are emotional creatures...of course strong emotions exist...arguing if love is real or not is another thing but the emotions it creates definitely are.

    So for yourself I offer you this; if a person ever asks you if they should marry someone...tell them no! Why? If they were actually in love, they would not be asking...they would be telling you!!!

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