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Noemí Herrero

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Is love a rational process?

While speaking with a friend the other day, he told me this: "I don´t believe in love because love is a rational process". I was in shocked as complete believer of "romantic love". Since then...I couldn´t stop reading and wonder...Am I wrong?? I have being living 32 years old believing in love and then love is just a reponse to values??
It is with a person’s sense of life that one falls in love—with that essential sum, that fundamental stand or way of facing existence, which is the essence of a personality??
One falls in love with the embodiment of the values that formed a person’s character, which are reflected in his widest goals or smallest gestures, which create the style of his soul—the individual style of a unique, unrepeatable, irreplaceable consciousness. It is one’s own sense of life that acts as the selector, and responds to what it recognizes as one’s own basic values in the person of another. It is not a matter of professed convictions (though these are not irrelevant); it is a matter of much more profound, conscious and subconscious harmony???
Then...my colleagues...is love just a rational process??? I have being waiting all my life for something that at the end is just a rational process of selection as if i was going to the market and select what I am going to eat the rest of the next "let´s say" one month, one year, all life ??


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    Oct 9 2012: Love is perhaps the most logical response to lust. People often get love and lust confused. Lust is the physical need, love is the emotional need. Some people are skilled at making the physical feel like the emotional. They take the rush you feel with lust and forfeit the reality of what they need from their partner.

    Neither though are rational decisions entirely.

    The only rational decision you can make is who to marry whether you love them or not. You can rationalize what your life will be like with the different people in your life. Will you be able to pay your bills or will they spend all the money you make and never keep a job? Never make a life long decision when you haven't rationalized it, which is why a spontaneous Vegas wedding usually ends in divorce.

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