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Noemí Herrero

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Is love a rational process?

While speaking with a friend the other day, he told me this: "I don´t believe in love because love is a rational process". I was in shocked as complete believer of "romantic love". Since then...I couldn´t stop reading and wonder...Am I wrong?? I have being living 32 years old believing in love and then love is just a reponse to values??
It is with a person’s sense of life that one falls in love—with that essential sum, that fundamental stand or way of facing existence, which is the essence of a personality??
One falls in love with the embodiment of the values that formed a person’s character, which are reflected in his widest goals or smallest gestures, which create the style of his soul—the individual style of a unique, unrepeatable, irreplaceable consciousness. It is one’s own sense of life that acts as the selector, and responds to what it recognizes as one’s own basic values in the person of another. It is not a matter of professed convictions (though these are not irrelevant); it is a matter of much more profound, conscious and subconscious harmony???
Then...my colleagues...is love just a rational process??? I have being waiting all my life for something that at the end is just a rational process of selection as if i was going to the market and select what I am going to eat the rest of the next "let´s say" one month, one year, all life ??


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    Oct 8 2012: I think it is not. And it musn't be. In my opinion, love is something that appears, out of control, like a nice sound, or a beautiful colour; it's like a wild wind and from the instant it blows your mind, you're completely lost. And this is the wonderful of love. If not, what else?
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      Oct 9 2012: i agree with you .i think love is mystical .and it is a feel .we can not stop that .when love is falling we will become excited and it is a pleasure we can not find isome of the mormal life.

      we are easily touched by our lover and we expend her advantages and think she is the best and without her i can not live .and also we are easily hurt .we may get over reacted about some of her behavior.i think when you have these feelings you are in ture love .

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