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Noemí Herrero

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Is love a rational process?

While speaking with a friend the other day, he told me this: "I don´t believe in love because love is a rational process". I was in shocked as complete believer of "romantic love". Since then...I couldn´t stop reading and wonder...Am I wrong?? I have being living 32 years old believing in love and then love is just a reponse to values??
It is with a person’s sense of life that one falls in love—with that essential sum, that fundamental stand or way of facing existence, which is the essence of a personality??
One falls in love with the embodiment of the values that formed a person’s character, which are reflected in his widest goals or smallest gestures, which create the style of his soul—the individual style of a unique, unrepeatable, irreplaceable consciousness. It is one’s own sense of life that acts as the selector, and responds to what it recognizes as one’s own basic values in the person of another. It is not a matter of professed convictions (though these are not irrelevant); it is a matter of much more profound, conscious and subconscious harmony???
Then...my colleagues...is love just a rational process??? I have being waiting all my life for something that at the end is just a rational process of selection as if i was going to the market and select what I am going to eat the rest of the next "let´s say" one month, one year, all life ??


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    Oct 8 2012: If you are asking whether love is a selection derived by conscious analytical calculation of costs and benefits, I would say no. For example, people are drawn to people, and continue to be drawn to them, for reasons subconscious to them.
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      Oct 8 2012: Fritzie when you speak about sunconscious...is this sbconscious under rational control?
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        Oct 8 2012: It isn't. It resides in a different part of the brain.
        • Oct 8 2012: The "subconscious" is not really any part of the brain, it's not even a scientific term, it may not even exist the way people like Freud describe it.

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