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Noemí Herrero

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Is love a rational process?

While speaking with a friend the other day, he told me this: "I don´t believe in love because love is a rational process". I was in shocked as complete believer of "romantic love". Since then...I couldn´t stop reading and wonder...Am I wrong?? I have being living 32 years old believing in love and then love is just a reponse to values??
It is with a person’s sense of life that one falls in love—with that essential sum, that fundamental stand or way of facing existence, which is the essence of a personality??
One falls in love with the embodiment of the values that formed a person’s character, which are reflected in his widest goals or smallest gestures, which create the style of his soul—the individual style of a unique, unrepeatable, irreplaceable consciousness. It is one’s own sense of life that acts as the selector, and responds to what it recognizes as one’s own basic values in the person of another. It is not a matter of professed convictions (though these are not irrelevant); it is a matter of much more profound, conscious and subconscious harmony???
Then...my colleagues...is love just a rational process??? I have being waiting all my life for something that at the end is just a rational process of selection as if i was going to the market and select what I am going to eat the rest of the next "let´s say" one month, one year, all life ??


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    Oct 8 2012: i am sorry to hear that .there are different kinds of love .when i am 16 years old i think love is romantic .and i will buy my girlfriend whatever she want and make her happy ,while i am 23 years old ,i think that love is a partner who can share the same value with me .and we have the same hobby .we can appreciate each other .

    i dont know when i am old what love is .maybe we can see the sunset together and hand in hand .you can choose you love ,it all depends on youself .
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      Oct 8 2012: So...as the way you explained...it´s like now that you are 23 years old when you decide who is going to be your girlfriend you are making a rational decision...to decide to take or not a new project??
      So in someway you believe in rational? Then if we assume love is rational and it has interest hidden when we make the selection...is the most selfish selection we ever made!!!!
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        Oct 8 2012: yeah .i think we must have common languages ,and we have the same interests .suppose .i am a quiet man ,how can i bear a loud girl .everyday talking singing and noisey. we both feel comfortable when staying together ..then we can stay long .

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