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Faking suggests something quite negative, if we are able to do it then we have it within us... Perhaps just change the term faking?

As humans we have our natural abilities, and sometimes we get more used to using some set of abilities that become our dominant attributes... But trying something we have within us and finding we have that ability, perhaps should not be termed as faking... I like the talk and it's really useful for a lot of us, I think alot more people will be moved by this if faking is struck out...

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    Oct 9 2012: All of you have some really good points. I too was a little put off by her using the term "fake" to describe this process, although it is fairly accurate. It still conjures up some negative connotations in my mind when I hear people talk about faking things, but essentially "faking it" is to fool or persuade yourself into being more confident in this case, and not really geared towards manipulating others. Personally, I prefer to use what is referred to as "positive visualization," seeing yourself achieving a particular goal or seeing yourself as the person you desire to be until that becomes your reality. This is just another way of "faking it until you become it." Our thoughts and words become our reality. Think and speak positively and positivity is what you will receive!
  • Oct 8 2012: Thanks for bringing this up. When the term popped up from the Speaker, it did lead me to draw a negative picture of what she was about to say later. I would prefer using "act as" to "fake", as the term would be neutral. But overall speech is really fascinating and inspiring! I've never known my body language say much than words!
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    Oct 8 2012: Here the issue of morals and ethics comes in. We have natural abilities, but we should aim at persuasion in our interactions. Not manipulation.
    There is nothing wrong in taking advantage of our strengths (it would be foolish not to do so); but we should also consider others and think of the manner we would see as 'faking' so that we would not do the things that we usually condemn.
  • Oct 20 2012: 'faking' was a clumsy choice of words. Nothing more to add, except maybe buy a dictionary.
  • Oct 20 2012: I agree
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    Oct 11 2012: An interesting ethical point. "Faking" involves deception and dishonesty. However the examples given by Amy Cuddy suggest that that what is happening is that the technique was used to overcome low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence.

    As Jovel correctly points out if the ability exists, there is no deception involved -at least of the other person. However, if the person "faking it" lacks the ability being faked and is trying to deceive another person that he has the ability, then we are trully in the realm of deception and, in Feyisayo´s words, manipulation. This reminds me of some of the techniques used in neurolinguistics, which can also be used to wander into unethical behaviours.
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    Oct 11 2012: To fake is to misrepresent or to deceive. If I make a less-than-stellar attempt at doing something it would not be fair to say I was faking unless I tried to deceive or misrepresent. Failure is not faking. Not trying and saying you did is faking.
  • Oct 8 2012: IMO, the term "faking it" here is about how you feel yourself. On the surface, you have a lot of fear about whatever it is - let's say public speaking - and just don't feel capable. Faking it is a means of coping just to get past the fear and insecurity. After enough work, it no longer feels like faking it. The self doubt is gone and you can focus on just saying what you have to say. That's incredibly empowering once you've got it down.

    Call it what you want, but the term "fake" actually isn't bad or inaccurate when you are starting down the path towards overcoming fear.