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Peter Grabas

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Are one of the reason that more people who are tall -or large- are more successful than not due to primal reasons?

It occurs to me that one of the reason that more people who are tall or large, are more successful than not are subject to primal reasons. Size and expansiveness are subconsciously motivating or de-motivating us in primal ways to succeed or to acquiesce.

If you are short, what were your experiences with success and dominance?
The same question if you are tall, what were your experiences with success and dominance?.

If you are tall or large have you found this to be an asset or a liability with people's expectations or prejudices toward you? The same question if you are short.

People of average height and girth, did you experience or observe any of these preconceptions, expectations or prejudice?


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  • Oct 10 2012: Nice tip, Anne Oneill!
    The success or failure of your apparent dominance or lack of dominance would be determined by how the way you appear matches your social standing and social expectations.
    For instance, being a tall woman in my era (I grew to 6 ft. born in mid-1950s) put me in the situation of getting noticed when I'd walk into a room. Being tall was the first thing many people commented about, so I had to have a reply ready to the question of "how tall are you?" As a young person, I learned to make myself appear less threatening and calculating by letting all my breath out before I talked to make it seem as if I wasn't planning ahead at what I said. (Later that was a habit I worked to eliminate!) I hated intimidating others, but that's how people acted around me. So I had to learn to deal with it.
    I had a friend who was a very athletic, short and round person who loved to dance. People were amused to watch him dance just because he looked funny and incongruous while doing it; sort of like an animated Michelin-man thug.

    Everyone in some ways has to deal with these repercussions of matching or disappointing the expectations of their culture. Anywhere we do not match social expectations of who we appear to be contrasted with who we feel we are inside - there are going to be issues.

    So I believe that social "tags" of what behaviors mean to our culture are more important than the dominant ancient physical displays in our culture. Certainly primal physical factors are working underneath our ability to sense or admit them, but overlaid and more obvious are the symbolic social meanings that we've been sold.

    For instance, nature wants people to get fat as an expression of natural success. But now, fat people aren't considered attractive in our culture anymore. Our culture "sold us" on the benefits of being slim. Being fat is now a sign of someone not being able to move around and exert themselves. That's why my energetic, round dancing friend was so amusing.

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